I will have to start with the background so I don’t confuse anyone. I have 2 dads a
biological father and a stepfather. My stepfather is the man who raised me and the one I
call Dad he raised me from 18months old until the day he died and I miss him so much!
My biological father is still alive. I’ve tried several times to talk with him called him on
numerous occasions just to talk nothing else…I’ve felt guilty over the years and
wondered if he ever thinks of me or if he misses me. My mom and him got a divorce
when I was about 10 months old she left him and they shared custody. I spent every
other weekend with him and the weeks with her at 18 months old she married Jim(my
dad) and Jim raised me though I still had visitation with David(biological father) at 6
years old there was a major custody battle that took place between Mom Dad and David
it went on for about 6 months total at the end of the battle my mom was awarded sole
custody of me and about another 6 months later Jim adopted me giving me his last name I
was a daddy’s girl through and through and though I still thought of David he still sent
me birthday cards and a card for all the holidays we didn’t talk any more. After my
Dad(Jim) died, I started getting more and more curious as to who David was if he still
wanted me in his life and if he still cared about me. As time went on and I grew up I
continued to wonder these things. When I was about 17 years old I called information
and got his number and called him…We talked for about an hour about life and things he
gave me his e-mail and I sent pictures to him as well as sent him a graduation invitation
as well as many senior pictures…He didn’t show up at my graduation I was hurt but
figured he needed some time to heal. We didn’t talk for a while even though I called a
few times with no answer. I had to pay the house phone bill so I tried not to use many
long distance minutes because I was only 17 and still had car insurance to pay and only
had a minimum wage paying job and couldn’t afford much extra…Mom said he could
call the house if he wanted to talk to me but he never did. I had to have a surgery right
before my 18th birthday and right after my graduation to look at my ovaries and uterus
because I was having some feminine issues…The morning of the surgery mom asked me
if I wanted to call David and tell him the hospital was only about 20 minutes from his
house and she said maybe he’d like to drop by. I called him and instead of him being
worried or anything he was mad at me not about the surgery but for not calling him more
I tried to explain that I hadn’t called because I couldn’t afford much long distance and
said that he could call me and that Id even buy two 500 minute calling cards and mail one
to him so that we could call each other instead he was mad at me as if he couldn’t
understand what I was saying…after that I let it go and I haven’t talked to him since right
before I got marred we had a fight then to about why I hadn’t called…As soon as I
moved out on my own I called him with my new house phone number so that he could
call me one of his reasons before was that him and my mom didn’t get a long and he was
afraid he would have words with her and upset me and that’s why he didn’t call even
though mom assured me this wouldn’t happen and him as well that was his reason…he
never one time called me and I figured if he wasn’t going to make the effort I wasn’t
going to either. Now its starting again I feel the need to reconnect with him to talk to him
to find out who he is and if he has any feelings for me. Do you guys have any advice for
me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as well as some vibes!
Thanks so much for reading this!!
biological father and a stepfather. My stepfather is the man who raised me and the one I
call Dad he raised me from 18months old until the day he died and I miss him so much!
My biological father is still alive. I’ve tried several times to talk with him called him on
numerous occasions just to talk nothing else…I’ve felt guilty over the years and
wondered if he ever thinks of me or if he misses me. My mom and him got a divorce
when I was about 10 months old she left him and they shared custody. I spent every
other weekend with him and the weeks with her at 18 months old she married Jim(my
dad) and Jim raised me though I still had visitation with David(biological father) at 6
years old there was a major custody battle that took place between Mom Dad and David
it went on for about 6 months total at the end of the battle my mom was awarded sole
custody of me and about another 6 months later Jim adopted me giving me his last name I
was a daddy’s girl through and through and though I still thought of David he still sent
me birthday cards and a card for all the holidays we didn’t talk any more. After my
Dad(Jim) died, I started getting more and more curious as to who David was if he still
wanted me in his life and if he still cared about me. As time went on and I grew up I
continued to wonder these things. When I was about 17 years old I called information
and got his number and called him…We talked for about an hour about life and things he
gave me his e-mail and I sent pictures to him as well as sent him a graduation invitation
as well as many senior pictures…He didn’t show up at my graduation I was hurt but
figured he needed some time to heal. We didn’t talk for a while even though I called a
few times with no answer. I had to pay the house phone bill so I tried not to use many
long distance minutes because I was only 17 and still had car insurance to pay and only
had a minimum wage paying job and couldn’t afford much extra…Mom said he could
call the house if he wanted to talk to me but he never did. I had to have a surgery right
before my 18th birthday and right after my graduation to look at my ovaries and uterus
because I was having some feminine issues…The morning of the surgery mom asked me
if I wanted to call David and tell him the hospital was only about 20 minutes from his
house and she said maybe he’d like to drop by. I called him and instead of him being
worried or anything he was mad at me not about the surgery but for not calling him more
I tried to explain that I hadn’t called because I couldn’t afford much long distance and
said that he could call me and that Id even buy two 500 minute calling cards and mail one
to him so that we could call each other instead he was mad at me as if he couldn’t
understand what I was saying…after that I let it go and I haven’t talked to him since right
before I got marred we had a fight then to about why I hadn’t called…As soon as I
moved out on my own I called him with my new house phone number so that he could
call me one of his reasons before was that him and my mom didn’t get a long and he was
afraid he would have words with her and upset me and that’s why he didn’t call even
though mom assured me this wouldn’t happen and him as well that was his reason…he
never one time called me and I figured if he wasn’t going to make the effort I wasn’t
going to either. Now its starting again I feel the need to reconnect with him to talk to him
to find out who he is and if he has any feelings for me. Do you guys have any advice for
me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as well as some vibes!
Thanks so much for reading this!!