I am so angry right now. I'm sorry I just need to vent, otherwise I can't finish up my last mid term...
I am so tired of my relationship. I know mentally I'm pretty much done. Short of a miracle it will be hard for me to get back to where we use to be (and that miracle is him seeking therapy and sticking to it).
Basically whenever he is in physical pain, he makes any excuse necessary (it seems) to bring me down. He'll yell or snap at me and it has gotten bad within the past couple of months.
Yesterday he fell and hurt his back. So I went out of my way (since I took the week off for final exams) to clean off the couch and the coffee table, precooked some pizzas (so that when I got home from my exam I could just throw them in the oven) and got him his sodas and spent time with him.
This morning I got up with him and was helping him get ready, but since he was in the shower/then getting dressed, there wasn't much to do so I began to brush the cats (they needed it).
The first thing that happened was that we heard an advertisement to enhance reading skills. We were picking at the commercial saying "reading doesn't make you smarter, retention makes you smarter" Then he said "Yes that's why I'm better at (Game) than you, because I can remember things longer"
He asked me to fill his bag up with soda (he has a disgusting soda addiction). Not realizing the time I kept brushing Whitey since he had a lot of knots in his fur. B came back by and said "Can you do it NOW?"
So I
as I didn't like the tone that was taken with me.
As soon as he heard that, he quickly says "Forget it, if you didn't want to help you should've just said so."
When he made the comment about why he's better at the game, ummm...if he's smarter then me, then why am I the breadwinner of the relationship? The only reason why he's better is because when he comes home from work, he just sits in his room playing that game while I'm either stuck in traffic coming home, at class (earning my masters) or cooking, cleaning, playing with the cats, doing homework, etc.
Its hard as we have been together for 3 years now. It just seems like the past year has been the hardest on us. He was without a job until April, and during that time really abusive. I figured that things would go away once he got a job and felt confident, but it just hasn't. something really changed in him from when he was without a job.
I have suggested therapy to him, and he thinks a) there's nothing wrong or b) he can resolve whatever issue he has on his own, after all he is a social worker.
Thanks for listening gals and guys!
I am so tired of my relationship. I know mentally I'm pretty much done. Short of a miracle it will be hard for me to get back to where we use to be (and that miracle is him seeking therapy and sticking to it).
Basically whenever he is in physical pain, he makes any excuse necessary (it seems) to bring me down. He'll yell or snap at me and it has gotten bad within the past couple of months.
Yesterday he fell and hurt his back. So I went out of my way (since I took the week off for final exams) to clean off the couch and the coffee table, precooked some pizzas (so that when I got home from my exam I could just throw them in the oven) and got him his sodas and spent time with him.
This morning I got up with him and was helping him get ready, but since he was in the shower/then getting dressed, there wasn't much to do so I began to brush the cats (they needed it).
The first thing that happened was that we heard an advertisement to enhance reading skills. We were picking at the commercial saying "reading doesn't make you smarter, retention makes you smarter" Then he said "Yes that's why I'm better at (Game) than you, because I can remember things longer"
He asked me to fill his bag up with soda (he has a disgusting soda addiction). Not realizing the time I kept brushing Whitey since he had a lot of knots in his fur. B came back by and said "Can you do it NOW?"
So I
As soon as he heard that, he quickly says "Forget it, if you didn't want to help you should've just said so."
When he made the comment about why he's better at the game, ummm...if he's smarter then me, then why am I the breadwinner of the relationship? The only reason why he's better is because when he comes home from work, he just sits in his room playing that game while I'm either stuck in traffic coming home, at class (earning my masters) or cooking, cleaning, playing with the cats, doing homework, etc.
Its hard as we have been together for 3 years now. It just seems like the past year has been the hardest on us. He was without a job until April, and during that time really abusive. I figured that things would go away once he got a job and felt confident, but it just hasn't. something really changed in him from when he was without a job.
I have suggested therapy to him, and he thinks a) there's nothing wrong or b) he can resolve whatever issue he has on his own, after all he is a social worker.
Thanks for listening gals and guys!