Im sorry if this post turns out to be too long or in the wrong spot, but i need to vent about this and possibly get some advice on what to do with this situation.
Let me start at the beginning when i first got Monster, my 7 mo old kitten.
Back in May, on Memorial day to be exact, this guy (who lives in the recovery home right next to my work) came in with this teeny tiny itty bitty kitten. it was love at first sight. i could tell the kitten was sick, he had a runny nose, runny eyes and was sneezing. they guy said that the kitten was one from a group that lives over there, and did not belong to him so i was welcome to take him if i wanted, and boy oh boy i wanted to take him home. bc i live with my boyfriend and his family, i had to call his mom and ask her. she was hellbent on not letting me bring him home, but i finally convinced her to let me. i called the humane society and asked them what to do with a kitten so young, i knew he was too young to eat solids. they explained everything and iwent home and got all the necessities. i got on the computer to do research on it and i learned alot about raising kittens. the next day i took him to the vet and got medicine for him, he had conjunctivitis and a URI. i weaned him at the appropriate time and litter trained him which, i thought was going to be way more difficult than it really was. he has since grown into a handsome young cat and i am so happy i gave him the oppprtunity to live a healthy life.
However, my happiness is dampened by the fact that even after 6 months of having him here, my boyfriends mom still talks about the fact that she orginally said NO to having a cat and that she still doesnt want him here. she is constantly blaming him for things that get destroyed in the house and even praises the dog when he barks/goes after the cat(has never "attacked him) and yells at anyone who tries to yell at the dog for it. im not going to lie, my cat has destroyed a couple plants, a blind in one of the windows, but i replaced the plants and the blind. he has broken a picture frame which i CANNOT replace, he ripped the jingle thing off of a christmas door hanger, which i sewed back in place. but alot of the things he gets blamed for like destroying a cherry wood side table, is something he didnt do. the table was just given to her (used) from her sister. it was in the living room for ONE day. i was constantly watching Monster bc i dont want him to get used to being on that table, knowing my bfs mom plans to put breakable things on it and i know he would get on there and break them. so i told EVERYONE that if they see him on the table to push him off and to be CONSISTANT with it and we all were. the next morning i wake up and she is telling me to go look at the table and its all scratched up. now there is NO WAY he did that. he just got neutered and they clipped his claws (back and front) really really short so he cant scratch ANYTHING. he was never on that table for more than 5 seconds, everytime he got on it we pushed him off right away. and he gets locked in my room with me at night.
but its not just the fact that she is constantly blaming things on the cat, its that she could care less what happens to him. SHE opened a window a while back and he got out and got lost and when my bf was freakin out on her for it she came back and said "well it aint my fault and it aint my cat i shouldnt have to worry about it". then she could care less if she lets him out via the back door when letting the dog out. she dont like the fact that the door always has to be closed(more in summer than in winter) bc the dog is used to being able to come and go as he pleases with the door being open. now with the holidays right around the corner, and our tree just being put up yesterday, im really worried bout how things are going to work out with the tree. he seems slightly into it, he hasnt really climbed it and it just got done yesterday. i had explained to her that i had read that tinsel is really bad if ingested by a cat, and this was before the tree was up. last night i came out of my room and the tree was all decorated and it looks great, and i was so0o happy that there wasnt any tinsel on the tree, i had thought she really took what i said into consideration. but then she said well i still have to get tinsel on there and i looked at her like ????? do u not care if my cat dies? also, tinsel is just going to attract him to the tree even more than he was orginally, and i know she doesnt want him destroying her tree. but she didnt even tie it up like i asked her to.
i am just getting so sick of always having to hear about Monster. yeah he is a little bad, but in all honesty i really dont know if he is acting like a "normal" kitten does or if he really has behavioral problems. i kno some things he does is not what most cats do, such as attacking hands and feet, but that is bc he was away from his mother too early. i have tried what i can to get him to stop that behavior but he insists on doing it, so when he starts, i just walk away. but i really dont think he is a "bad" cat i just think he is acting like a kitten will, and just so were on the right page, i make sure i explain to them that despite the fact that he looks like an adult cat(he weighs a whopping 10 lbs, but healthy according to the vet) that he is only 7 months old and kittens stay kittens up until they are a year old.
i am so frustrated by this, i didnt get a kitten so everyone can hate him. i love my baby to death and it really hurts my feelings when people say bad things about him and all. i just dont know what to do about this situation anymore its really overwhelming. i want to find an apartment so i wont have to worry about it anymore but i jsut cant afford one right now at all. so im not sure what to do...
sorry for this long and somewhat meaningless post but i had to say something as this was building up inside from not having anyone to discuss this with... THANKS!
Let me start at the beginning when i first got Monster, my 7 mo old kitten.
Back in May, on Memorial day to be exact, this guy (who lives in the recovery home right next to my work) came in with this teeny tiny itty bitty kitten. it was love at first sight. i could tell the kitten was sick, he had a runny nose, runny eyes and was sneezing. they guy said that the kitten was one from a group that lives over there, and did not belong to him so i was welcome to take him if i wanted, and boy oh boy i wanted to take him home. bc i live with my boyfriend and his family, i had to call his mom and ask her. she was hellbent on not letting me bring him home, but i finally convinced her to let me. i called the humane society and asked them what to do with a kitten so young, i knew he was too young to eat solids. they explained everything and iwent home and got all the necessities. i got on the computer to do research on it and i learned alot about raising kittens. the next day i took him to the vet and got medicine for him, he had conjunctivitis and a URI. i weaned him at the appropriate time and litter trained him which, i thought was going to be way more difficult than it really was. he has since grown into a handsome young cat and i am so happy i gave him the oppprtunity to live a healthy life.
However, my happiness is dampened by the fact that even after 6 months of having him here, my boyfriends mom still talks about the fact that she orginally said NO to having a cat and that she still doesnt want him here. she is constantly blaming him for things that get destroyed in the house and even praises the dog when he barks/goes after the cat(has never "attacked him) and yells at anyone who tries to yell at the dog for it. im not going to lie, my cat has destroyed a couple plants, a blind in one of the windows, but i replaced the plants and the blind. he has broken a picture frame which i CANNOT replace, he ripped the jingle thing off of a christmas door hanger, which i sewed back in place. but alot of the things he gets blamed for like destroying a cherry wood side table, is something he didnt do. the table was just given to her (used) from her sister. it was in the living room for ONE day. i was constantly watching Monster bc i dont want him to get used to being on that table, knowing my bfs mom plans to put breakable things on it and i know he would get on there and break them. so i told EVERYONE that if they see him on the table to push him off and to be CONSISTANT with it and we all were. the next morning i wake up and she is telling me to go look at the table and its all scratched up. now there is NO WAY he did that. he just got neutered and they clipped his claws (back and front) really really short so he cant scratch ANYTHING. he was never on that table for more than 5 seconds, everytime he got on it we pushed him off right away. and he gets locked in my room with me at night.
but its not just the fact that she is constantly blaming things on the cat, its that she could care less what happens to him. SHE opened a window a while back and he got out and got lost and when my bf was freakin out on her for it she came back and said "well it aint my fault and it aint my cat i shouldnt have to worry about it". then she could care less if she lets him out via the back door when letting the dog out. she dont like the fact that the door always has to be closed(more in summer than in winter) bc the dog is used to being able to come and go as he pleases with the door being open. now with the holidays right around the corner, and our tree just being put up yesterday, im really worried bout how things are going to work out with the tree. he seems slightly into it, he hasnt really climbed it and it just got done yesterday. i had explained to her that i had read that tinsel is really bad if ingested by a cat, and this was before the tree was up. last night i came out of my room and the tree was all decorated and it looks great, and i was so0o happy that there wasnt any tinsel on the tree, i had thought she really took what i said into consideration. but then she said well i still have to get tinsel on there and i looked at her like ????? do u not care if my cat dies? also, tinsel is just going to attract him to the tree even more than he was orginally, and i know she doesnt want him destroying her tree. but she didnt even tie it up like i asked her to.
i am just getting so sick of always having to hear about Monster. yeah he is a little bad, but in all honesty i really dont know if he is acting like a "normal" kitten does or if he really has behavioral problems. i kno some things he does is not what most cats do, such as attacking hands and feet, but that is bc he was away from his mother too early. i have tried what i can to get him to stop that behavior but he insists on doing it, so when he starts, i just walk away. but i really dont think he is a "bad" cat i just think he is acting like a kitten will, and just so were on the right page, i make sure i explain to them that despite the fact that he looks like an adult cat(he weighs a whopping 10 lbs, but healthy according to the vet) that he is only 7 months old and kittens stay kittens up until they are a year old.
i am so frustrated by this, i didnt get a kitten so everyone can hate him. i love my baby to death and it really hurts my feelings when people say bad things about him and all. i just dont know what to do about this situation anymore its really overwhelming. i want to find an apartment so i wont have to worry about it anymore but i jsut cant afford one right now at all. so im not sure what to do...
sorry for this long and somewhat meaningless post but i had to say something as this was building up inside from not having anyone to discuss this with... THANKS!