Hello! I came across this website and couldn't find a better place to share my problem at.
To start off, I have an outdoor, 100% white cat with green eyes named Piyon. From what I was told, she is around 8 months old, judging by her look/size. She started showing up at my house around 3 months ago but started sleeping at our terrace for about a month now. She is the type of cats that infinitely likes to be cuddled, likes to lay on the floor and play, curls between people's legs, and never ever acts aggressively or gets scared by visitors she never seen before (she's been like that since I met her).
We have a very good relashionship. I feed her almost whenever she wants to eat, and she always keeps following me when I'm in my backyard. Let me also mention that I am able to "communicate" with her since I know how to make a perfect cat noise with the side of my upper lip which I use to always call her when she's not around and she comes instantly, or she starts having a sort of conversation with me . (VIDEO: )
The Problem: Yesterday I wanted to go to my neighbor's place late at night who lives right across the street. Since the terrace (where the cat stays and sleep) is right next to the entrance main door, she heard me and as always came running to me. Before I left the house I strictly told her not to follow me (but that was before I did research and found out that cats cannot be disciplined) but when I was crossing the street, I looked back and she was in the middle of the street and cars can pass by any second. I picked her up and put her back on the terrace but she followed me again and then I gave up and ignored her. After a few hours I went back home, didn't see her, did the cat noise out loud and then I saw her crossing the street and she came back home. When she arrived I ignored her for a minute, then started yelling at her very much, and I think my initial reaction made her scared. This went on for a good 10 minutes I guess, and while I was yelling at her she would look sad, not looking me straight in the face, and meowing with a low voice.
When that finished I went to the kitchen, got her some food, and when I went outside I showed her the food but didn't let her take it for like 3 times, while I was constantly telling her 'so you want this and you want to get yourself killed??'
In the end I gave her the food, she ate it and I went inside to sleep.
Two days have passed now and she is still sleeping here and staying all day, and also letting me cuddle her, but I can feel that she is sad/something is wrong. The look on her face has changed to a more depressed one, she doesn't look me in the eyes like often, and she doesn't meow to me a lot like she used to. Sometimes I call her while I'm sitting outside on my chair, sometimes she comes over (but not running) and sometimes she looks at me briefly and then keeps looking elsewhere. The last thing is when she DOES come over and I cuddle her, she lasts for a minute at best and then walks away for a meter or two from me and just sits along looking at random things around her.
PS: 3 weeks ago I also yelled at her for touching the refrigerator, the next day she was a bit sad but after a few minutes all became normal again. This time it's two days in a row and I don't see any signs of improvement. Has the damage already been done or am I being impatient or need to take other measures?
I appreciate anyone's help, I am here to learn more how to deal with cats and hopefully I'll become a better owner in time!
To start off, I have an outdoor, 100% white cat with green eyes named Piyon. From what I was told, she is around 8 months old, judging by her look/size. She started showing up at my house around 3 months ago but started sleeping at our terrace for about a month now. She is the type of cats that infinitely likes to be cuddled, likes to lay on the floor and play, curls between people's legs, and never ever acts aggressively or gets scared by visitors she never seen before (she's been like that since I met her).
We have a very good relashionship. I feed her almost whenever she wants to eat, and she always keeps following me when I'm in my backyard. Let me also mention that I am able to "communicate" with her since I know how to make a perfect cat noise with the side of my upper lip which I use to always call her when she's not around and she comes instantly, or she starts having a sort of conversation with me . (VIDEO: )
The Problem: Yesterday I wanted to go to my neighbor's place late at night who lives right across the street. Since the terrace (where the cat stays and sleep) is right next to the entrance main door, she heard me and as always came running to me. Before I left the house I strictly told her not to follow me (but that was before I did research and found out that cats cannot be disciplined) but when I was crossing the street, I looked back and she was in the middle of the street and cars can pass by any second. I picked her up and put her back on the terrace but she followed me again and then I gave up and ignored her. After a few hours I went back home, didn't see her, did the cat noise out loud and then I saw her crossing the street and she came back home. When she arrived I ignored her for a minute, then started yelling at her very much, and I think my initial reaction made her scared. This went on for a good 10 minutes I guess, and while I was yelling at her she would look sad, not looking me straight in the face, and meowing with a low voice.
When that finished I went to the kitchen, got her some food, and when I went outside I showed her the food but didn't let her take it for like 3 times, while I was constantly telling her 'so you want this and you want to get yourself killed??'
In the end I gave her the food, she ate it and I went inside to sleep.
Two days have passed now and she is still sleeping here and staying all day, and also letting me cuddle her, but I can feel that she is sad/something is wrong. The look on her face has changed to a more depressed one, she doesn't look me in the eyes like often, and she doesn't meow to me a lot like she used to. Sometimes I call her while I'm sitting outside on my chair, sometimes she comes over (but not running) and sometimes she looks at me briefly and then keeps looking elsewhere. The last thing is when she DOES come over and I cuddle her, she lasts for a minute at best and then walks away for a meter or two from me and just sits along looking at random things around her.
PS: 3 weeks ago I also yelled at her for touching the refrigerator, the next day she was a bit sad but after a few minutes all became normal again. This time it's two days in a row and I don't see any signs of improvement. Has the damage already been done or am I being impatient or need to take other measures?
I appreciate anyone's help, I am here to learn more how to deal with cats and hopefully I'll become a better owner in time!
). I hope you can get some help for that so nobody else is subjected to it.
