I hope I chose the right section to post this. I registered to seek some advice on what to do with my situation.
We have two dogs and we wanted to rescue an older, adult cat so we adopted a cat a little over 3 weeks ago. On Saturday we had to return her to the rescue from where we adopted her from because of my allergies which were getting worse and worse (from itchy eyes only then to sniffly nose and then to a rash on my arms) and the fact that I just in October had a kidney transplant.
You see, I have developed allergies to my cat and we came to the heart-breaking decision to bring her back to the rescue so the rescue could find a better home for her. I didn't realize how attached I had become and how much I miss her. After returning her, I received a return phone call from my Nephrologist saying that I could go through allergy shots so I would be able to keep her! Before that, I thought that because of the transplant, I couldn't undergo any treatments unless they were due to an emergency, so I figured out the best thing would be to return her to the rescue. I wish he had called me earlier!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would NEVER have returned her.
As soon as we brought her back and left the adoption center, I was miserable right afterwards. As the minutes and hours went by I came to realize that I had made a HUGE mistake and wanted desperately to get her back!! I could NOT sleep all night and was up and e-mailed the rescue director explaing that I missed her so much and could not think of anything but her. I also explained that I got permission from my doctor to receive allergy shots so I COULD live with her and she could be happy again. She was very attached to me, following me everywhere I went!!! We truly fell in love with each other. The rescue director told me that although she loved her friend and she had a good home, that the rescue director felt we were the IDEAL home for my cat.
Well, the problem is this. She was adopted out to a person who works at the pet shop where the rescue has space to show their cats to the public. She already has 8 cats in her house but her husband wanted one that would attach to him and follow him around. My cat's former owner said that he turned her into the shelter beause she hated another cat he had and would stalk this other cat and even if the cat was elsewhere she would seek this cat out so much so that his other cat always hid. The woman who adopted my cat only wants what's best for the cat, which I can totally understand because that's what I want too. She had her husband come down the same day we returned her and my cat worked her magic on him and they took her home that night (at least I was glad that she was not going back into a cage).
I went to speak to the lady yesterday, which was extremely hard for me as I am very shy (but I knew I had to at least try because I wanted my cat back!!!). I asked how my cat was doing and she said she was doing fine, eating and drinking and exploring her area. I then explained to her what happened to me and that I wanted my cat back (maybe that was a mistake, hindsight is 20/20). The woman seemed to be very cold towards me, totally different from when I spoke with her previously. She told me that she would have to think about it, talk to her husband (it was going to be his cat) and then she would go through the shelter director (in other words, it seemed as though she didn't want to hear from me or see me again--which would make it very hard because we go to this store quite often because of our dogs! She is afraid that I will return the cat at another point but I told her, promised her that I would be her forever home, no matter what. And I was going through allergy shots to boot!. Didn't matter, I think. I told the shelter director what happened and she later e-mailed me that I shouldn't have spoken with the woman because I made everyone uncomfortable (but in an e-mail to me she had previously told me that I SHOULD speak with the woman. I was only doing what she said to do. I am so upset. If I would have known, I would not have approached the woman who adopted her.
I didn't sign any paperwork when I returned her to the rescue nor did I want my adoption fee back (she offered to refund it, but we decided to let them keep it). We also gave all of the cats toys, litter box, scratching posts, food, food bowls, etc to go with her to her new home. Because I didn't sign her back over to the rescue, is there anything I can do???
Please tell me what I can do to get her back. Again, I'm crying as I type this...I am so miserable and depressed. My husband is worried about me. He didn't realize how much I had fallen in love with this cat and how much I would hurt over this. I feel like someone has died, that is how I feel inside!
I do hope that if she doesn't get along with the other 8 cats that I can get her back at least, but it may be a while. I'm hoping and praying over this and hope my prayers will be answered. Please help me!!! Thank you.
We have two dogs and we wanted to rescue an older, adult cat so we adopted a cat a little over 3 weeks ago. On Saturday we had to return her to the rescue from where we adopted her from because of my allergies which were getting worse and worse (from itchy eyes only then to sniffly nose and then to a rash on my arms) and the fact that I just in October had a kidney transplant.
You see, I have developed allergies to my cat and we came to the heart-breaking decision to bring her back to the rescue so the rescue could find a better home for her. I didn't realize how attached I had become and how much I miss her. After returning her, I received a return phone call from my Nephrologist saying that I could go through allergy shots so I would be able to keep her! Before that, I thought that because of the transplant, I couldn't undergo any treatments unless they were due to an emergency, so I figured out the best thing would be to return her to the rescue. I wish he had called me earlier!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would NEVER have returned her.
As soon as we brought her back and left the adoption center, I was miserable right afterwards. As the minutes and hours went by I came to realize that I had made a HUGE mistake and wanted desperately to get her back!! I could NOT sleep all night and was up and e-mailed the rescue director explaing that I missed her so much and could not think of anything but her. I also explained that I got permission from my doctor to receive allergy shots so I COULD live with her and she could be happy again. She was very attached to me, following me everywhere I went!!! We truly fell in love with each other. The rescue director told me that although she loved her friend and she had a good home, that the rescue director felt we were the IDEAL home for my cat.
Well, the problem is this. She was adopted out to a person who works at the pet shop where the rescue has space to show their cats to the public. She already has 8 cats in her house but her husband wanted one that would attach to him and follow him around. My cat's former owner said that he turned her into the shelter beause she hated another cat he had and would stalk this other cat and even if the cat was elsewhere she would seek this cat out so much so that his other cat always hid. The woman who adopted my cat only wants what's best for the cat, which I can totally understand because that's what I want too. She had her husband come down the same day we returned her and my cat worked her magic on him and they took her home that night (at least I was glad that she was not going back into a cage).
I went to speak to the lady yesterday, which was extremely hard for me as I am very shy (but I knew I had to at least try because I wanted my cat back!!!). I asked how my cat was doing and she said she was doing fine, eating and drinking and exploring her area. I then explained to her what happened to me and that I wanted my cat back (maybe that was a mistake, hindsight is 20/20). The woman seemed to be very cold towards me, totally different from when I spoke with her previously. She told me that she would have to think about it, talk to her husband (it was going to be his cat) and then she would go through the shelter director (in other words, it seemed as though she didn't want to hear from me or see me again--which would make it very hard because we go to this store quite often because of our dogs! She is afraid that I will return the cat at another point but I told her, promised her that I would be her forever home, no matter what. And I was going through allergy shots to boot!. Didn't matter, I think. I told the shelter director what happened and she later e-mailed me that I shouldn't have spoken with the woman because I made everyone uncomfortable (but in an e-mail to me she had previously told me that I SHOULD speak with the woman. I was only doing what she said to do. I am so upset. If I would have known, I would not have approached the woman who adopted her.
I didn't sign any paperwork when I returned her to the rescue nor did I want my adoption fee back (she offered to refund it, but we decided to let them keep it). We also gave all of the cats toys, litter box, scratching posts, food, food bowls, etc to go with her to her new home. Because I didn't sign her back over to the rescue, is there anything I can do???
Please tell me what I can do to get her back. Again, I'm crying as I type this...I am so miserable and depressed. My husband is worried about me. He didn't realize how much I had fallen in love with this cat and how much I would hurt over this. I feel like someone has died, that is how I feel inside!
I do hope that if she doesn't get along with the other 8 cats that I can get her back at least, but it may be a while. I'm hoping and praying over this and hope my prayers will be answered. Please help me!!! Thank you.