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Ok, first.. marie... adrian's not my ex-boyfriend.. he's my best friend... we've been friends for a year, which seems like a lifetime considering how much we've been thru together, and I've had feelings for him for the last 6 months...
What everyone needs to really understand about this situation and in answer to jcat's question, what I have gotten out of my friendship with Adrian is just that, the most honest, loyal and trustworthy friend I have... I have gained a confidant... Adrian and I have spent almost every day for almost a year together and in that time we have had more fun than I've ever had with any of my other friends... He's been more caring and concerned about me than even my best friend of 12 years who, when I got kicked out of my house, took off on me and hasnt spoken to me since... Everyone wants to harp on how hurtful he is.. yet, this is the person who took me in when I was homeless and had no where else to go...
He's always been honest with me about his intentions with me... He's never told me that he wanted to be in a relationship with me, or anyone else for that matter... and as far as him and Melissa... he made it perfectly clear to her, too that he wasnt interested in a relationship with her but that he wanted to be her friend... After the last couple of nights of talking to him I realized that the pain he's feeling is something much deeper than a desire to be with her... he actually doesnt want to be with her.. he is just hurt that he gave himself to her and she didn't regard what he gave, his virginity, as precious.... Adrian is actually a lot more like a girl, LoL... he's not the typical guy at all... He's been crying to me the last few nights because he feels like trash that he gave her his virginity and she left him... He's regretting it... much like I did when I broke up with my ex... it took me a while to stop feeling the way that he does right now.... in time he will understand that he is still just as precious without his virginity as he was with it...
maybe that will make everyone understand a little more what's going on.... I can't expect everyone to truly understand our relationship because as well as I know Adrian there are still things that I learn about him every day...
What everyone needs to really understand about this situation and in answer to jcat's question, what I have gotten out of my friendship with Adrian is just that, the most honest, loyal and trustworthy friend I have... I have gained a confidant... Adrian and I have spent almost every day for almost a year together and in that time we have had more fun than I've ever had with any of my other friends... He's been more caring and concerned about me than even my best friend of 12 years who, when I got kicked out of my house, took off on me and hasnt spoken to me since... Everyone wants to harp on how hurtful he is.. yet, this is the person who took me in when I was homeless and had no where else to go...
He's always been honest with me about his intentions with me... He's never told me that he wanted to be in a relationship with me, or anyone else for that matter... and as far as him and Melissa... he made it perfectly clear to her, too that he wasnt interested in a relationship with her but that he wanted to be her friend... After the last couple of nights of talking to him I realized that the pain he's feeling is something much deeper than a desire to be with her... he actually doesnt want to be with her.. he is just hurt that he gave himself to her and she didn't regard what he gave, his virginity, as precious.... Adrian is actually a lot more like a girl, LoL... he's not the typical guy at all... He's been crying to me the last few nights because he feels like trash that he gave her his virginity and she left him... He's regretting it... much like I did when I broke up with my ex... it took me a while to stop feeling the way that he does right now.... in time he will understand that he is still just as precious without his virginity as he was with it...
maybe that will make everyone understand a little more what's going on.... I can't expect everyone to truly understand our relationship because as well as I know Adrian there are still things that I learn about him every day...