It's so humiliating talking about this but I have to get it out. We're going to lose our house and I don't know what to do. I'm in tears right now.
We built it 3 years ago and we love it, but we can't afford it. Mortgage is over $1000/month. We were fine until DH and I both had health issues last year and from missing work we fell behind on everything. We already declared bankruptcy in Aug (which means we have to pay the courts $500/month..which makes NO sense to me. If we can't afford to pay our bills before why tack on another one immediately?). We already cut out cable and landline phone. Our cells are prepaid. Our internet is wireless and we use a router to pick it up from his Uncle's house across the road but they are moving in the next couple days so we will be cut off from the internet shortly. We're eating whatever nasty thing we can find in the freezer and ramen noodles (the animals are still well fed though, don't worry). We just can't swing it.
Part of the problem is DH works mainly for commission for a home improvement store and with the economy there aren't many people buying. Also, he gets a lot of side jobs laying floors and installing windows but that hasn't been happening much either. Plus, a few weeks ago he fell snowblowing and dislocated his shoulder and pulled a ligament. At first he thought it was just stove up but when it was still bothering him he finally went to the doctor. He was worried that he either tore a ligament or injured the rotater cuff, but he had an MRI yesterday and everything is fine, just pulled and sprained. But, no heavy lifting for a few weeks....so no extra money. Plus they cut back everyones hours so now he's only working 25-30 hrs. At least he didn't get laid off.
I've looked for a part time job (I work full time for low pay but good health insurance, thank god!) but they are impossible to find around here, even over the holiday season...they want you to work full time but I can't with my job schedule if I want to sleep, take care of the animals and actually see my husband.
MIL offered to let us take a loan out on her CD to help get us caught up, but the bankruptcy courts won't allow it even though it is a secure loan. So, we had "the talk". About what our options are.
Our only real option is to move into the house that DH's aunt and uncle are moving out of. That's my MIL's old farm house that we lived in waiting for this house to be built. I absolutely HATE that house but it would be low rent and lower utilities (wood furnace).
We can either let bankruptcy take the house which would take it down to a chapter 7 and we wouldn't owe the courts the $500/month, or we can keep it and rent it for the mortgage payment and stop renting it once we're back on our feet. Problem with that is how long will it take to find a renter and what if they trash it? Either way, I don't know if I could handle seeing someone else live in my house when I'm just across the dirt road.
I just don't know what to do. How do you admit to yourself that you are a failure at being an adult?
We built it 3 years ago and we love it, but we can't afford it. Mortgage is over $1000/month. We were fine until DH and I both had health issues last year and from missing work we fell behind on everything. We already declared bankruptcy in Aug (which means we have to pay the courts $500/month..which makes NO sense to me. If we can't afford to pay our bills before why tack on another one immediately?). We already cut out cable and landline phone. Our cells are prepaid. Our internet is wireless and we use a router to pick it up from his Uncle's house across the road but they are moving in the next couple days so we will be cut off from the internet shortly. We're eating whatever nasty thing we can find in the freezer and ramen noodles (the animals are still well fed though, don't worry). We just can't swing it.
Part of the problem is DH works mainly for commission for a home improvement store and with the economy there aren't many people buying. Also, he gets a lot of side jobs laying floors and installing windows but that hasn't been happening much either. Plus, a few weeks ago he fell snowblowing and dislocated his shoulder and pulled a ligament. At first he thought it was just stove up but when it was still bothering him he finally went to the doctor. He was worried that he either tore a ligament or injured the rotater cuff, but he had an MRI yesterday and everything is fine, just pulled and sprained. But, no heavy lifting for a few weeks....so no extra money. Plus they cut back everyones hours so now he's only working 25-30 hrs. At least he didn't get laid off.
I've looked for a part time job (I work full time for low pay but good health insurance, thank god!) but they are impossible to find around here, even over the holiday season...they want you to work full time but I can't with my job schedule if I want to sleep, take care of the animals and actually see my husband.
MIL offered to let us take a loan out on her CD to help get us caught up, but the bankruptcy courts won't allow it even though it is a secure loan. So, we had "the talk". About what our options are.
Our only real option is to move into the house that DH's aunt and uncle are moving out of. That's my MIL's old farm house that we lived in waiting for this house to be built. I absolutely HATE that house but it would be low rent and lower utilities (wood furnace).
We can either let bankruptcy take the house which would take it down to a chapter 7 and we wouldn't owe the courts the $500/month, or we can keep it and rent it for the mortgage payment and stop renting it once we're back on our feet. Problem with that is how long will it take to find a renter and what if they trash it? Either way, I don't know if I could handle seeing someone else live in my house when I'm just across the dirt road.
I just don't know what to do. How do you admit to yourself that you are a failure at being an adult?