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Thank you sweetie, that really opened up my heart a little... maybe i'm being too rough on him about this?? Thanks again for the advice!!
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No you are just being a woman with responsibility in mind! I am the same way, I have been through that situation myself (job hopping) and my bf has told me how the job scene is in AZ...He worked for cash at the two jobs he had...One he was a cabinet maker and the second job he sold perfume/cologne on the streets for cash! Um yeah I think he lived there for a year with his ex-gf and only had those two jobs for three months! When he came back here he worked at the porn store (lol) then finally he settled down at a job that was worth his time! There is nothing wrong with expressing your concern, just try not to nag or overwhelm him more than he is already...Maybe he just wants to be a better provider and wants something more in life...Without our dreams we don't have much, sometimes it takes alot of trying to get there! You guys will be alright, I know it
If you ever need to vent you can PM me anytime! Btw way I am 24 and I have had 9 different jobs in my life already...two of which where career choices I had made and later found out it wasn't my thing!
Sweetie, I fully understand what you are going through. My DH and I have been together for 11 years. For the first few years he was like that. Sometimes he would just leave a job at lunchtime and never go back. Luckely I began to make enough that I finally jus said, stop working and be a house husband. That worked for a little while we were both happy. That time gave him a chance to figure hiself out. He decided to go into graphic art and web design. He went back to school and got a degree in Multimedia. He was 30 when he went to school. Now he has been in the industry, self imployed and making decent money. I still work out of the house so we have benefits. Its cheeper that way. My paycheck is considered extra cash. It just takes time.
If I may sugest, tell your bf to go to Trader Joes. I went to their site and they have a ton of stores in and around Pheonix. They are a great company. They care about their employies andthe pay is decnt. The benefits are pretty good. The company only ires from with in so if he wanted he could move up and become management. They have a program, if he is willing and shows that he can do it, that is a fast track to management. In less then 2 years he can go from a regular part timer to a full timer. He just needs to be willing to move where ever they want him to go. Probably back east since that is where all the new stores are. You do not even need to go to college to become a full timer, just the desire to succed. The company is known for a low turn over rate. Most of the people I work with have been with the company for 3+ years. A few people just celebrated the 25 years anniversery. I have never been happier in my life. After a year there I have decided that I want to stay with the company and go full time. I have started some training. It wil take me a while because I don't want to have to move so I will do it the long way. Just so you know a regular employee who works up to 40 hours is called a part timer, a manager who work 40 hours or more is a full timer. You will know who is who when you walk into the store. The part timer where tshirts with a band of flowers accross the chest and the fulltimers where full Hawaiin shirts. Just tell him to check it out. The really good thing about it is most of the people who work there were or still are trying ot figure out who they are.
Feel free to PM me for any more info. If he does go to apply, I would be more than happy to give you my name and store number. He could use it as a referance. As long as I get his name from you I will give him a good recomendation.
Here is thrier site so you guys can find the one neer you.
http://www.traderjoes.com/locations.asp
If I may sugest, tell your bf to go to Trader Joes. I went to their site and they have a ton of stores in and around Pheonix. They are a great company. They care about their employies andthe pay is decnt. The benefits are pretty good. The company only ires from with in so if he wanted he could move up and become management. They have a program, if he is willing and shows that he can do it, that is a fast track to management. In less then 2 years he can go from a regular part timer to a full timer. He just needs to be willing to move where ever they want him to go. Probably back east since that is where all the new stores are. You do not even need to go to college to become a full timer, just the desire to succed. The company is known for a low turn over rate. Most of the people I work with have been with the company for 3+ years. A few people just celebrated the 25 years anniversery. I have never been happier in my life. After a year there I have decided that I want to stay with the company and go full time. I have started some training. It wil take me a while because I don't want to have to move so I will do it the long way. Just so you know a regular employee who works up to 40 hours is called a part timer, a manager who work 40 hours or more is a full timer. You will know who is who when you walk into the store. The part timer where tshirts with a band of flowers accross the chest and the fulltimers where full Hawaiin shirts. Just tell him to check it out. The really good thing about it is most of the people who work there were or still are trying ot figure out who they are.
Feel free to PM me for any more info. If he does go to apply, I would be more than happy to give you my name and store number. He could use it as a referance. As long as I get his name from you I will give him a good recomendation.
Here is thrier site so you guys can find the one neer you.
http://www.traderjoes.com/locations.asp
Eh. I'm a musician and we tend to be drifters and we tend to hop from job to job to job and act as independent contractors...lots of W-9's! Of course, we're doing this with a goal in mind. It's an artistic goal, but we're not just meandering at least.
So, I really have no advice as to how to get him to settle down. I'm also 21 and as much as I want to "settle down" sometimes...no one is going to take you seriously enough at this age to where you'll find something permanent. Just keep racking up the experience in your chosen fields and move forward and "up the ladder" as it were. 21/22, as I'm coming to realize, are hard ages to be.
Have either of you gotten a bachelor's degree? You're still young enough to do so, and really, if you want to have any sort of major growth opportunities, a college degree is necessary. It's beginning to feel like you need a master's to flip burgers these days. So, if you want or your boyfriend wants to break into an industry with a lot of growth, college might be your best route to get that.
So, I really have no advice as to how to get him to settle down. I'm also 21 and as much as I want to "settle down" sometimes...no one is going to take you seriously enough at this age to where you'll find something permanent. Just keep racking up the experience in your chosen fields and move forward and "up the ladder" as it were. 21/22, as I'm coming to realize, are hard ages to be.
Have either of you gotten a bachelor's degree? You're still young enough to do so, and really, if you want to have any sort of major growth opportunities, a college degree is necessary. It's beginning to feel like you need a master's to flip burgers these days. So, if you want or your boyfriend wants to break into an industry with a lot of growth, college might be your best route to get that.
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Ok sweet, I will bring this up to him for sure
The fact that your BF is working is a whole lot more important than how many jobs he has been through.
Beware of the under-the-table jobs, though. Once you start its easy to say you'll only do it for a little while and then get a regular job. If he wants out now, IMO, its a great idea. My ex-hubby ran a small business that way and we ended up in trouble with the IRS.
I had a legit job and could have taken the standard deduction on a regular 1040. I would have had a small refund. He had to itemize and wanted me to file with him so he wouldn't have to pay so much. Well, he never got around to it. The result is we are BOTH guilty of deliquent taxes. To make a long story short, we are both paying back taxes every month even though we've been divorced for 5 years and have to forfit any refund we would have coming every year because that is also applied to back taxes. I forfited $800.00 a year for the last 4 years. Interest and penalties are much steeper than you think. Every time we make a payment the bill only goes UP a little bit. Its very depressing.
Beware of the under-the-table jobs, though. Once you start its easy to say you'll only do it for a little while and then get a regular job. If he wants out now, IMO, its a great idea. My ex-hubby ran a small business that way and we ended up in trouble with the IRS.
I had a legit job and could have taken the standard deduction on a regular 1040. I would have had a small refund. He had to itemize and wanted me to file with him so he wouldn't have to pay so much. Well, he never got around to it. The result is we are BOTH guilty of deliquent taxes. To make a long story short, we are both paying back taxes every month even though we've been divorced for 5 years and have to forfit any refund we would have coming every year because that is also applied to back taxes. I forfited $800.00 a year for the last 4 years. Interest and penalties are much steeper than you think. Every time we make a payment the bill only goes UP a little bit. Its very depressing.
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It's kind of weird the way this business works..... When he first started working there they told him that they would pay him cash for the first few weeks.... then they would put him on the payroll... well after working there since like January.... I don't think there is a payroll... see my boyfriend is the only white guy working, every one else is hispanic besides the owner and receptionist. I believe the only reason why they hired my boyfriend is so that way they have a good english speaking person on the crew to talk to the customers... I don't 'think' that the others working there are even legal to work in the US well I know 1 is legal for sure... but the others?? But that's just what I think... And what's really weird is that the other hispanics get paid more than him, and since they have more senority (sp?) they boss him around all day....and treat him aweful....
BTW: He installs rain gutters on houses, I'm not sure if I mentioned this already or not...
BTW: He installs rain gutters on houses, I'm not sure if I mentioned this already or not...
Did your bf and my bf work at the same place lol? Um yeah the hispanics got paid more than my bf did too...they really crank out the work! My bf is really handy but was a little slow seeings that he just started, he said the hispanics flew threw their work like they had been doing it forever! That is how things are in Arizona, not that I know because I have never been there, but I hear about that place all the time! Yeah..... your bf needs a new job and an actual paycheck, I wouldn't feel too good about myself in a scene like that! You need to get out your pom poms out and cheer him on!
