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Here is the story:
In 2004 I got two kittens, brothers, from a friend. In 2007, while they were out on the patio, a stray cat went by, causing them to turn and fight. It was the redirected aggression. I was devastated. I tried separation, gradual reintroduction, etc. Sometimes it worked for a few days, but not for long. It went on this way for 1.5 years. Eventually, I moved, and when I got in my new apartment they were instantly fine! I suppose since I took them out of the old place where they experienced those issues it was like a clean slate.
Still, the aggression never fully goes away. Since then, small things set them off. For instance, once I brought one home from the vet and the vet smell caused the other to attack. Another time a racoon on the balcony set them off. Things like that. Everytime it happens, I go through my routine of separation and reintroduction. I've tried the Feliway. I've tried a lot. And yet, everytime it worked, but only until a new trigger.
When it happens, I have to separate, which means shutting one out of the bedroom at night. The cat just sits out there and cries, and cries all night and I can't sleep
I've been afraid to go on vacations, to go away for the weekends. When I go out with friends, I worry they are fighting.
Today it happened again. MY one cat was sick and vomitting, and the other senses the sickness and attacked. My normal stuff I do isn't working and just the sight of each other they go crazy.
I'm at my wits end with it all. I don't have the energy to go through this anymore. Even if I separate them all night, and tomorrow I get them back together, how long will they last until it happens again? I will sit here all weekend keeping an eye on them to make sure they are okay and not fighting.
I haven't been on vacation in 3 years!
I took them to the vet today. He said I did more than most people would do. I'm seriously thinking about putting one down. Which is painfully hard. Having to choose which one dies and which one lives. But I can't go on like this.
My sister mentioned re-homing, but they are 11.5 years old. Seniors. I'd worry where they were and how they were doing.
Obviously I'm keeping one. I've cried all night. It's hard to be in my shoes on this decision. I'm sure people will say not to. I don't want to do a rescue and have one living in a cage for weeks.
I'm very sad right now.
In 2004 I got two kittens, brothers, from a friend. In 2007, while they were out on the patio, a stray cat went by, causing them to turn and fight. It was the redirected aggression. I was devastated. I tried separation, gradual reintroduction, etc. Sometimes it worked for a few days, but not for long. It went on this way for 1.5 years. Eventually, I moved, and when I got in my new apartment they were instantly fine! I suppose since I took them out of the old place where they experienced those issues it was like a clean slate.
Still, the aggression never fully goes away. Since then, small things set them off. For instance, once I brought one home from the vet and the vet smell caused the other to attack. Another time a racoon on the balcony set them off. Things like that. Everytime it happens, I go through my routine of separation and reintroduction. I've tried the Feliway. I've tried a lot. And yet, everytime it worked, but only until a new trigger.
When it happens, I have to separate, which means shutting one out of the bedroom at night. The cat just sits out there and cries, and cries all night and I can't sleep
I've been afraid to go on vacations, to go away for the weekends. When I go out with friends, I worry they are fighting.
Today it happened again. MY one cat was sick and vomitting, and the other senses the sickness and attacked. My normal stuff I do isn't working and just the sight of each other they go crazy.
I'm at my wits end with it all. I don't have the energy to go through this anymore. Even if I separate them all night, and tomorrow I get them back together, how long will they last until it happens again? I will sit here all weekend keeping an eye on them to make sure they are okay and not fighting.
I haven't been on vacation in 3 years!
I took them to the vet today. He said I did more than most people would do. I'm seriously thinking about putting one down. Which is painfully hard. Having to choose which one dies and which one lives. But I can't go on like this.
My sister mentioned re-homing, but they are 11.5 years old. Seniors. I'd worry where they were and how they were doing.
Obviously I'm keeping one. I've cried all night. It's hard to be in my shoes on this decision. I'm sure people will say not to. I don't want to do a rescue and have one living in a cage for weeks.
I'm very sad right now.