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I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. RIP Merlot.
Im so sorry merlon passed yesterday. My cat i lost last sat. Can really understand how your feeling my cat was 20 years old. I'm heartbroken she was such a huge part of our family. I think rosie was poorly for a month the vet thought she had a minor stroke gradualay she got worse we had to call the emergeny vet she looked paralised and I knew she was suffering.Although her time had come was the hardest decision I had to make was to put her to sleep was so upset asked my hubby to take her. Since then have a feeling so guilty, upset, cying all the time miss her so much. I really hope she has crossed the bridge
Thank you for the help. You gave me some ideas of some things I'd like to do for him. I'm still very sad. I keep having dreams about him. But, I have gotten even closer to my other cat, Asti because of this. I hope I'm doing a good job of making him happy.So sorry for your loss of Merlot. There really isn't a cure for one's loss. Time does soften it some. I lost Boney Girl last year and Xena this year. Here is a list of things I have done or are doing to help myself:
1. Cry. Feel what you feel.
2. Have a memorial service---privately or with folks who understand.
3. Gather all pictures and videos in one place/file.
4. Pick a place on the wall and hang the best pictures.
5. Write---something private to help you remember or maybe something to share with others.
6. Join a cat forum---to support yourself, to support others and to learn.
7. Secure a keepsake. I have Boney's first vaccine tag on a cord around my neck.
8. Talk about her/him to those who understand and will listen.
9. Take care of and visit the grave or urn.
10. Plant something in their memory. I have catnip, some grasses and 100 daffodils around my girl's graves.
11. Celebrate the day they entered your life or some other special day.
12. Drink. (this is not good advice, but helps some of us for a few minutes)
13. Get one of the many photo products offered by the photo places. I'm thinking about a pillow print.
14. Get a tribute/memorial cattoo.
15. Remember.
16. Help another cat when ready.