Laurie, that is so hard with everything you and Gary have had thrown at you over the last few years. She probably didn't mean it to come out the way it sounded, but people don't always have tact. My Mom used to say the same to me, and when I got Tasha on top of the cats she thought I was totally crazy. But then she came to stay, saw and appreciated the cats not as 'just cats' but as individual personalities who were all part of a large family, and actually fell in love with Tasha, the last thing I expected. And she admitted she was wrong about me and my life-style. So there is always hope for change.