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I feel guilty saying that, and I try to repeat to myself that I hate her behavior and not her. but I have moments that I hate being a cat owner. I wake up during the weekdays at 4:50 AM to make it to my job that's an hour away (in good Miami traffic days). I get home between 6:00 - to 6:30 PM. The first thing I have to do is feed the cats as soon as I wake up and as soon as I am home. Thats not the problem. Every weekend I have to wake up at 5:00 AM to feed them, she will shriek for hours until I give in. She will wake up my sister and my nephew with her noise. I tried for months different things to stop it. now I just give in and feed her. Sometimes I am lucky and I can force myself to go back to sleep.
I have to wake up half asleep, go down, and feed her. On the weekends all I want is to rest. At work all I get is comments that I don't look rested. I find it hard to rest. I already feel tired as is because of my PCOS.
I love my cats, and I dedicate time to them, I make them home made cat food, I use the weekend to clean out their box. They mean so much to me. But I'm getting so tired of dealing with her constant meowing. I get a headache just hearing her meow during the day. I sometimes swear I hear her meowing when she's not even there.
I don't have anywhere to talk about this, and I'm not sure if anyone here will even understand how I'm feeling.
there are other things going on that is causing my frustration, and I guess its easier to focus on this one silly thing out of each day.
my sister hasn't had a job for two years, due to her husband having cancer; he passed away last year. I moved in after he passed and have been here for an entire year. She didn't want to work this year because her daughter had an unsafe pregnancy. so she finally started looking 4 months ago. Her daughter ended up having a child, so she isn't working either. I tried telling her to get a weekend job, but doesn't want to leave the baby with my sister and I.
I constantly have to hear about all her issues, her health issues, her money issues. The fact that she has 1200$ in tolls and tickets. She got them during the time she was visiting her husband and our mom in the hospital. Our mom also passed away from cancer.
she's been going to interviews but hasn't gotten a job. I've suggested ways for her to start making money, dog walking, going to stores and asking a manager for a job. she's always has an excuse, she can't take this job or that job because of her back issues.
we have my nieces random boyfriend living with us to pay the bills, and now she's invited her other daughter and husband to live with us with all their animals.
I am trying to find a. better job to move out, but haven't had luck. I think the negative feelings I have toward my sister is leading to the negative feelings towards my cat.
I am angry that she's not stepping up. Being a home owner she should be willing to take whatever job she is offered. She keeps telling me that she doesn't care what job she has, but shuts down all the ideas I give her. A neighbor offered to find her a job, and she complains that she doesn't want to depend on anyone getting her a job. She's waiting for God to find her the perfect job. She says she doesn't worry so long as she has God. Except that I'm stuck dealing with her bills.
I feel this constant feeling of frustration. I so badly want my own place, but I can't afford it with my current paycheck.
I'm sorry for the long post but I have nowhere else to vent.
the past two years has been a horrible nightmare and I feel like I haven't woken up yet.
My mother passed away in 2016/Oct. I then had to deal with my sister struggling with her husbands cancer. He struggled for a year before passing. I would find myself crying at work because she would call me and talk about what she was going through. I then had to move out of the home I have lived in since I was a child, due to issues with my brother. And then this year, dealing with my sister not working.
I feel so tired.... ever since my mother passed away I have been dealing with anger issues. its gotten better but I feel the anger come back at random moments.
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Sorry about the long post, it felt better to write out everything I've been feeling.
I have to wake up half asleep, go down, and feed her. On the weekends all I want is to rest. At work all I get is comments that I don't look rested. I find it hard to rest. I already feel tired as is because of my PCOS.
I love my cats, and I dedicate time to them, I make them home made cat food, I use the weekend to clean out their box. They mean so much to me. But I'm getting so tired of dealing with her constant meowing. I get a headache just hearing her meow during the day. I sometimes swear I hear her meowing when she's not even there.
I don't have anywhere to talk about this, and I'm not sure if anyone here will even understand how I'm feeling.
there are other things going on that is causing my frustration, and I guess its easier to focus on this one silly thing out of each day.
my sister hasn't had a job for two years, due to her husband having cancer; he passed away last year. I moved in after he passed and have been here for an entire year. She didn't want to work this year because her daughter had an unsafe pregnancy. so she finally started looking 4 months ago. Her daughter ended up having a child, so she isn't working either. I tried telling her to get a weekend job, but doesn't want to leave the baby with my sister and I.
I constantly have to hear about all her issues, her health issues, her money issues. The fact that she has 1200$ in tolls and tickets. She got them during the time she was visiting her husband and our mom in the hospital. Our mom also passed away from cancer.
she's been going to interviews but hasn't gotten a job. I've suggested ways for her to start making money, dog walking, going to stores and asking a manager for a job. she's always has an excuse, she can't take this job or that job because of her back issues.
we have my nieces random boyfriend living with us to pay the bills, and now she's invited her other daughter and husband to live with us with all their animals.
I am trying to find a. better job to move out, but haven't had luck. I think the negative feelings I have toward my sister is leading to the negative feelings towards my cat.
I am angry that she's not stepping up. Being a home owner she should be willing to take whatever job she is offered. She keeps telling me that she doesn't care what job she has, but shuts down all the ideas I give her. A neighbor offered to find her a job, and she complains that she doesn't want to depend on anyone getting her a job. She's waiting for God to find her the perfect job. She says she doesn't worry so long as she has God. Except that I'm stuck dealing with her bills.
I feel this constant feeling of frustration. I so badly want my own place, but I can't afford it with my current paycheck.
I'm sorry for the long post but I have nowhere else to vent.
the past two years has been a horrible nightmare and I feel like I haven't woken up yet.
My mother passed away in 2016/Oct. I then had to deal with my sister struggling with her husbands cancer. He struggled for a year before passing. I would find myself crying at work because she would call me and talk about what she was going through. I then had to move out of the home I have lived in since I was a child, due to issues with my brother. And then this year, dealing with my sister not working.
I feel so tired.... ever since my mother passed away I have been dealing with anger issues. its gotten better but I feel the anger come back at random moments.
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Sorry about the long post, it felt better to write out everything I've been feeling.