I went to my lawyer's office yesterday and signed my divorce papers.
My ex has been very difficult to handle the last few days, calling repeatedly to bother me about makin changes (I hate redial), practically harassing my lawyer threatening to start a custody battle, all that kind of thing. He came over and started going through my kitchen, sorting my mail, picking up my phone and hitting redial to see who I was talking to. Very invasive. He's been paranoid that the lawyer and I are changing things in the document (we didn't) or that I was saying things about him (and of course I told my lawyer what my life was like). I seriously considered a restraining order. I wondered at one point if I needed to call a women's shelter, just for a few days. But there was no physical violence just kind of strange passive aggressive kind of harassment.
so I have signed the papers. And I made myself scarce. because I just couldn't deal with it. He must have called 3 or 4 times while I was at the lawyer's office. He was sure it was taking me a long time because we were plotting against him, not because it takes forever to read 50 pages of legal document (custody issues took up most of it).
I went shopping last night. I spent a whopping $12 at Half Price Books (got 5 books, good deal) but it felt terribly frivolous.
I don't know. I feel mostly sad. I thought I would feel a kind of relief, that ir was over and now life would settle down, but instead it's more like, I don't know what it's like. It's just a thing that happened and I hope to turn him back into a stranger again soon. If I didn't have my daughter, I probably would have done that already. He thinks we are all going to be friends and it just doesn't work like that. Not for me anyway.
Just seems like there should more to the end of a marriage than signing some papers. Some kind of ceremony. Maybe a dicorce shower like a wedding shower, all the things you'll need for your new life.
So.
My ex has been very difficult to handle the last few days, calling repeatedly to bother me about makin changes (I hate redial), practically harassing my lawyer threatening to start a custody battle, all that kind of thing. He came over and started going through my kitchen, sorting my mail, picking up my phone and hitting redial to see who I was talking to. Very invasive. He's been paranoid that the lawyer and I are changing things in the document (we didn't) or that I was saying things about him (and of course I told my lawyer what my life was like). I seriously considered a restraining order. I wondered at one point if I needed to call a women's shelter, just for a few days. But there was no physical violence just kind of strange passive aggressive kind of harassment.
so I have signed the papers. And I made myself scarce. because I just couldn't deal with it. He must have called 3 or 4 times while I was at the lawyer's office. He was sure it was taking me a long time because we were plotting against him, not because it takes forever to read 50 pages of legal document (custody issues took up most of it).
I went shopping last night. I spent a whopping $12 at Half Price Books (got 5 books, good deal) but it felt terribly frivolous.
I don't know. I feel mostly sad. I thought I would feel a kind of relief, that ir was over and now life would settle down, but instead it's more like, I don't know what it's like. It's just a thing that happened and I hope to turn him back into a stranger again soon. If I didn't have my daughter, I probably would have done that already. He thinks we are all going to be friends and it just doesn't work like that. Not for me anyway.
Just seems like there should more to the end of a marriage than signing some papers. Some kind of ceremony. Maybe a dicorce shower like a wedding shower, all the things you'll need for your new life.
So.