- Joined
- Feb 5, 2021
- Messages
- 4
- Purraise
- 7
Hi cat fans,
I have a 1 year old cat that I absolutely adore and love with all my life. When we got him, I was working remotely due to the pandemic, so I have never left my cat home by itself for a full work day (8-9 hours). The most we have left our cat at home has been 4 hour tops when my husband and I go out to run errands once a week. Even then I feel so bad and I keep trying to get reassured that he will be OK alone for a few hours, but sometimes it ruins the time out with my husband because of my constant worrying.
I worry that when he gets old and passes away, I will regret any time that I had control over that I didn't spend with him. It makes me so anxious to think about.
Tomorrow, our friends and I want to have a small get together for about 3-4 hours (they are in our COVID bubble, and we have all been tested). I think it will be fun and I don't want to be antisocial the whole time I have a cat, but thinking about leaving my cat alone at home for 3-4 hours is making me so sad/anxious/guilty that my husband and I even fought about it yesterday. He says that we cannot put our life on hold and that we need to enjoy ourselves with our lives too, but he is not very good at comforting and I just don't think he gets it.
I guess I came here to see if you have any advice and hear some reassurance. Am I crazy? Am I going overboard paranoia? Should I cancel plans with friends (tomorrow and the future?!)
I have a 1 year old cat that I absolutely adore and love with all my life. When we got him, I was working remotely due to the pandemic, so I have never left my cat home by itself for a full work day (8-9 hours). The most we have left our cat at home has been 4 hour tops when my husband and I go out to run errands once a week. Even then I feel so bad and I keep trying to get reassured that he will be OK alone for a few hours, but sometimes it ruins the time out with my husband because of my constant worrying.
I worry that when he gets old and passes away, I will regret any time that I had control over that I didn't spend with him. It makes me so anxious to think about.
Tomorrow, our friends and I want to have a small get together for about 3-4 hours (they are in our COVID bubble, and we have all been tested). I think it will be fun and I don't want to be antisocial the whole time I have a cat, but thinking about leaving my cat alone at home for 3-4 hours is making me so sad/anxious/guilty that my husband and I even fought about it yesterday. He says that we cannot put our life on hold and that we need to enjoy ourselves with our lives too, but he is not very good at comforting and I just don't think he gets it.
I guess I came here to see if you have any advice and hear some reassurance. Am I crazy? Am I going overboard paranoia? Should I cancel plans with friends (tomorrow and the future?!)