I experienced my first funeral at the age of 12 (my grandmother.) For a while not long after I married at 30 it seemed I was losing relatives right and left since they were all elderly. It's never easy, and repetition doesn't make it any easier. Just try to hang in there and know we're thinking of you.
The funeral is a time for everyone to come together and let the family know how much they loved the person who passed. It is a time to share tears, but also to share happy memories. While it cannot take away the pain, you will be surprised by the comfort you find from the ceremony.
Your first funeral is difficult, but I have never been to one that is easy. Yet I always gain some comfort. And you will hear stories of your uncle that will become your cherished memories.
This just happened to me earlier this month. My uncle died very unexpectedly - he was only 65. His funeral was very sad, but it was good to talk to other people that loved and missed him; were in shock, as we were; and it provided some closure on such a sudden, tragic loss. My heart and thoughts are with you.
Thanks again everyone. I think I managed to fall asleep at about 1.30 this morning! I didn't wake up until about 7. I had the most weird dreams about the funeral and stuff, it was horrible. I think it's all sinking in now, even though I feel kind of strange about it. Anyway, I am at work now so I am sure that will help me feel better! Thanks again
I know it's very little consolation, but in a way you've been lucky to go so long without losing any family members. Of course, that doesn't take any pain away from you now. You and your family (esp. your father!) are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending lots of good vibes and hugs your way {{{{{}}}}}. The girls send purrs and head butts. I hope your dad takes the news well; I think it is great that you all are being cautious about his physical well-being.
I'm so sorry you lost your Uncle, Gilly. You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts during this painful time. May God give you strength and peace in your heart.
Well since I first posted, there was a post morterm. It wasn't a heart attack, but a blood clot on the brain. He died instantly
The cremation was yesterday and to be honest, it was awful. From the moment we arrived at my aunts house people were in tears. Seeing the cars arrive and the hearse was really difficult. I have never seen a coffin that close up before. Reading all the messages on the cards was heart breaking.
Inside the crematoriam was full of emotion. I found it hard to concentrate because I could hear sobbing all around me, which for some reason I didn't expect
My two cousins, age 23 and 27 did the most amazing tribute to their father. The held each other together and gave each other strength. They chose Robbie William's Angels to be played at the end, which summed up the atmosphere.
The wake was fully catered for at a nearby venue. They had lots of pictures of my uncle all over the place, my mum and dad were in quite a few of them as well. To be honest, I was glad when I got home last night as I was so tired and had a headache etc.
Anyway, back to work today and thanks for all the kind wishes above