This is a little long.
i brought spooky over to my fiancé’s home, because I spend a lot of time there and spooky was beginning to act out a lot at my home with my family because of it. He kept running out and meowing excessively, so I packed him up and took him with me. When we arrived I had him stay in my fiancé’s mother’s room. My cat Salem regularly frequents this room and my fiancé’s room, but I figured spooky would be a lot more comfortable in his mother’s
I told my fiancé that we would need to take the introduction slow but he didn’t listen. When I first let spooky out of his cage, he hid for awhile. With persistence he came out and interacted with me and my fiancé. It helped that he knew us and trusted us. Against my wishes, he brought in Salem, my younger kitten. First he had her in the cage and spooky out, he hid again. Then he took her out the cage holding her forcing her in front of spooky. She hissed. He didn’t show any aggression.
I told him to take her out of the room. He did. But 20 min later he brought her back in and held her in front of spooky, and she hissed more aggressively. He again, did nothing.
At this point I’m getting frustrated because my fiancé refuses to do the introductions right. We kept the door closed for the next hour, then someone came in and left it open. Salem came in and started exploring around the room. Spooky was on the bed. I told him to get her but she told me to let him be. She walked all around the room,smelling all his belongings, got to the bed and hissed at him and ran to the other room. I followed her into the room and tried to interact with her and she hissed at me. She’s never hissed.
I tried to pick her up and she again hissed at me. I gave her some space and came back, and she let me play with her, but she would meow then hiss. I left her alone for the rest of the night.
This morning she got into the room because someone exited and left the door open. Spooky must have felt that I was threatened because he started to approach her and she started to growl and hiss aggresively. I managed to get her out the room. I checked on her a few minutes ago and she showed no aggression but hid from me.
How do I gain her trust again? Spooky staying here is only temporary and I don’t want to damage my relationship with her because of my fiancé’s mistakes. Should I hold off on the introductions and focus on making her less stressed first? Any advice would be appreciated.
i brought spooky over to my fiancé’s home, because I spend a lot of time there and spooky was beginning to act out a lot at my home with my family because of it. He kept running out and meowing excessively, so I packed him up and took him with me. When we arrived I had him stay in my fiancé’s mother’s room. My cat Salem regularly frequents this room and my fiancé’s room, but I figured spooky would be a lot more comfortable in his mother’s
I told my fiancé that we would need to take the introduction slow but he didn’t listen. When I first let spooky out of his cage, he hid for awhile. With persistence he came out and interacted with me and my fiancé. It helped that he knew us and trusted us. Against my wishes, he brought in Salem, my younger kitten. First he had her in the cage and spooky out, he hid again. Then he took her out the cage holding her forcing her in front of spooky. She hissed. He didn’t show any aggression.
I told him to take her out of the room. He did. But 20 min later he brought her back in and held her in front of spooky, and she hissed more aggressively. He again, did nothing.
At this point I’m getting frustrated because my fiancé refuses to do the introductions right. We kept the door closed for the next hour, then someone came in and left it open. Salem came in and started exploring around the room. Spooky was on the bed. I told him to get her but she told me to let him be. She walked all around the room,smelling all his belongings, got to the bed and hissed at him and ran to the other room. I followed her into the room and tried to interact with her and she hissed at me. She’s never hissed.
I tried to pick her up and she again hissed at me. I gave her some space and came back, and she let me play with her, but she would meow then hiss. I left her alone for the rest of the night.
This morning she got into the room because someone exited and left the door open. Spooky must have felt that I was threatened because he started to approach her and she started to growl and hiss aggresively. I managed to get her out the room. I checked on her a few minutes ago and she showed no aggression but hid from me.
How do I gain her trust again? Spooky staying here is only temporary and I don’t want to damage my relationship with her because of my fiancé’s mistakes. Should I hold off on the introductions and focus on making her less stressed first? Any advice would be appreciated.
