Alright, so here is the situation. My friend and I were debating this recently. My friend is married, very unhappily married. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her husband, he is sweet, funny, caring, he is just boring, and lazy. In the last 2 years he has done 2 romantic things for her, has said I love you 3 times, doesn’t do many chores, has never cooked, done laundry, cleaned litters, etc. His only chore is to take out the garbage, which she normally does.
She has tried talking to him about this but he honestly and truly does not understand. He believes that because he does his chores once a month or so, and he has done a couple romantic things that he should be praised for it. He doesn’t understand that she has done these things everyday for 2 years, and him doing it once in a blue moon doesn’t cut it. He honestly thinks he does enough.
Now for the romance part. This gets personal so pardon me lol. To keep things alive she used to initiate things in the bedroom a few times a week. She got tired of this and stopped. They haven’t done anything in months, she has mentioned it and he said “so come onto me” he doesn’t understand that she needs him to be romantic with her. She feels she is doing everything, and doesn’t feel she should do this especially if she resents him for not understanding the situation.
I forgot to mention that my friend is absolutely beautiful. She walks into a room and every single guy stares, I hate her
. She came to me the other day telling me everything I mentioned above (in longer detail) and said she is on the verge of cheating. She said she is craving the attention from her boyfriend but has no problem (as in guys are willing to give her attention, not that she is seeking it) getting it elsewhere. She mentioned she was lightly flirting with a guy at work, and said if he came onto her it would be hard to hold back. She isn’t even attracted to this guy, at all… but she is so lonely and tired of feeling like a “Mom” to her boyfriend, she feels insecure about herself, all sorts of emotions. She says the way this guy looks at her makes all of that go away. But she has no feelings for him, she just likes the way he makes her feel.
So my question…after a long story lol. How honest is too honest? I told her to tell her boyfriend exactly what she told me, including the guy at work situation. She has spoken to her boyfriend time after time for years and he STILL doesn’t get it. Maybe mentioned the guy would get him on his game.
Keep in mind her boyfriend is a good guy, so no need to bash lol. He is always there for her, calls if hes going to be late, then will call every 30min for an update, wants to spend all his time with her and will cancel important plans if she cant go, hes just a very trusting, good guy, just boring.
EDIT: I forgot to mention that we discussed him cheating on her. She said that she would be pissed… but mostly because he was “getting some” and she wasn’t… I told her to tell him this as well… too honest?
She has tried talking to him about this but he honestly and truly does not understand. He believes that because he does his chores once a month or so, and he has done a couple romantic things that he should be praised for it. He doesn’t understand that she has done these things everyday for 2 years, and him doing it once in a blue moon doesn’t cut it. He honestly thinks he does enough.
Now for the romance part. This gets personal so pardon me lol. To keep things alive she used to initiate things in the bedroom a few times a week. She got tired of this and stopped. They haven’t done anything in months, she has mentioned it and he said “so come onto me” he doesn’t understand that she needs him to be romantic with her. She feels she is doing everything, and doesn’t feel she should do this especially if she resents him for not understanding the situation.
I forgot to mention that my friend is absolutely beautiful. She walks into a room and every single guy stares, I hate her
So my question…after a long story lol. How honest is too honest? I told her to tell her boyfriend exactly what she told me, including the guy at work situation. She has spoken to her boyfriend time after time for years and he STILL doesn’t get it. Maybe mentioned the guy would get him on his game.
Keep in mind her boyfriend is a good guy, so no need to bash lol. He is always there for her, calls if hes going to be late, then will call every 30min for an update, wants to spend all his time with her and will cancel important plans if she cant go, hes just a very trusting, good guy, just boring.
EDIT: I forgot to mention that we discussed him cheating on her. She said that she would be pissed… but mostly because he was “getting some” and she wasn’t… I told her to tell him this as well… too honest?