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I've posted about losing my beautiful baby 9 months ago. It's been a roller coaster of emotions since I've said goodbye to her. I'm so sorry, i apologize for this post, I am just having one of those nights. Losing her was the hardest most devastating thing I have ever had to go through. The thing that kills me the most was how it all happened. I was told by the ER vets that she should be euthanized because they believed my cat was dying and there was nothing they could do to help her and in their eyes she was "suffering a lot" I never ever thought i would have to put her to sleep, at least not that night. I've said before that I always hoped when the time came that she would pass peacefully at home. I never ever thought that the night I took her to that ER vet would be the last time i would see her sweet face.
I just want to know, how do I know if she was ready to go that night? How do i know if it was the right time? It scares me that the vets could have been wrong, or that she may have still had more life left to live and I allowed them to convince us to put her to sleep. What is even worse is the vets at that ER clinic were very rude and rushy, talked to me with no compassion whatsoever even though i explained to them how hard this was for me and that it was my first time ever having to go through something like this. After all of this and my baby was gone... I did some searches on this vet clinic and I was heartbroken at some of the things I read from other pet parents and their experience with the vets who also saw my baby. Many of them said they did not care about the animals and would also recommend euthanizing their pets, but those people would leave and go to a different vet and sometimes they were treated and the pets got better.
I just feel like ever since I took her to this ER vet she got even worse. The way they did everything was very odd to me. When you bring in your pet they take them to the back straight away and you are not allowed to go back there with them. Then they place you in a room and the vet comes and speaks to you without your pet present in the room(they leave them in the back where you are not allowed). They don't bring your pet out until you have paid for the visit. I often wondered if they have done something in the back to my sweet kitty that lead to her declining even more, but i don't know, and I would like to think that a vet would never do such a horrible thing or bring any intentional harm to an Innocent pet.
The vets at the ER had told me they thought my baby had FIP or cancer and that the wisest thing to do was put her to sleep. They refused to run any tests and said that even if they did so they still could not help her. They kept saying that she was "suffering a lot" When they told me that it broke my heart and I looked at my sweet baby once they had finally brought her out and let me see her and she just looked so sad, I've never seen her look so depressed. I know there must have been something serious going on, she had fluid in her belly, had trouble urinating, was getting weaker and weaker.
I just feel horrible that maybe it wasn't the right time. That maybe it was too soon. I have some photos of her last two nights. My mom had taken the photos at the vet so she can get my sisters opinion on what to do (my sister is a human doctor)
It's so very very hard for me to share these photos below with you guys, they are so heart shattering, but I just need to know (some are from when she was sitting hunched up about two weeks before and her belly swelled up, some are the night before on the bed, and at the vet the last night after the vets had brought her in the room for us to see her- they told me she couldn't stand and she laid in that position on the table not moving i have never seen her sit that way until that night ) I loved her so much and felt so bad for a long time that maybe it was too soon, maybe if we would have waited she could have gotten better.
If anyone can please offer their opinion, do you think she looked ready to go in these photos? Do you think we did the right thing by listening to the vets? Or do you think there could have been a chance for her to get better or be treated? How did you know when it was time to let your cat go?
I just want to know, how do I know if she was ready to go that night? How do i know if it was the right time? It scares me that the vets could have been wrong, or that she may have still had more life left to live and I allowed them to convince us to put her to sleep. What is even worse is the vets at that ER clinic were very rude and rushy, talked to me with no compassion whatsoever even though i explained to them how hard this was for me and that it was my first time ever having to go through something like this. After all of this and my baby was gone... I did some searches on this vet clinic and I was heartbroken at some of the things I read from other pet parents and their experience with the vets who also saw my baby. Many of them said they did not care about the animals and would also recommend euthanizing their pets, but those people would leave and go to a different vet and sometimes they were treated and the pets got better.
I just feel like ever since I took her to this ER vet she got even worse. The way they did everything was very odd to me. When you bring in your pet they take them to the back straight away and you are not allowed to go back there with them. Then they place you in a room and the vet comes and speaks to you without your pet present in the room(they leave them in the back where you are not allowed). They don't bring your pet out until you have paid for the visit. I often wondered if they have done something in the back to my sweet kitty that lead to her declining even more, but i don't know, and I would like to think that a vet would never do such a horrible thing or bring any intentional harm to an Innocent pet.
The vets at the ER had told me they thought my baby had FIP or cancer and that the wisest thing to do was put her to sleep. They refused to run any tests and said that even if they did so they still could not help her. They kept saying that she was "suffering a lot" When they told me that it broke my heart and I looked at my sweet baby once they had finally brought her out and let me see her and she just looked so sad, I've never seen her look so depressed. I know there must have been something serious going on, she had fluid in her belly, had trouble urinating, was getting weaker and weaker.
I just feel horrible that maybe it wasn't the right time. That maybe it was too soon. I have some photos of her last two nights. My mom had taken the photos at the vet so she can get my sisters opinion on what to do (my sister is a human doctor)
It's so very very hard for me to share these photos below with you guys, they are so heart shattering, but I just need to know (some are from when she was sitting hunched up about two weeks before and her belly swelled up, some are the night before on the bed, and at the vet the last night after the vets had brought her in the room for us to see her- they told me she couldn't stand and she laid in that position on the table not moving i have never seen her sit that way until that night ) I loved her so much and felt so bad for a long time that maybe it was too soon, maybe if we would have waited she could have gotten better.
If anyone can please offer their opinion, do you think she looked ready to go in these photos? Do you think we did the right thing by listening to the vets? Or do you think there could have been a chance for her to get better or be treated? How did you know when it was time to let your cat go?
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