Hi, I am looking for some advice, sorry for the amount of background information....
I have a wonderful 1 year old male cat, he is sweet and very calm. Recently a friend has decided to go on work exchange abroad for the year and asked if I would care for her 12 year old female cat whilst she is gone. My husband and I agreed but only if the two cats would get on.
My boy is forever bringing home neighbourhood cats and seems to like cat company, my friend's cat is very sociable with people but has never lived with another cat. We understood that the fact my friend's cat had never lived with another cat would be difficult enough but that there is a big age gap between the two as well.
We knew the living situation probably wouldnt work but we were willing to try. We have followed lots of advice about slow introductions and sharing scents. My friend's cat M is in a 'safe room' and we have kept the door shut. Initially M hissed at the door whenever my boy D was near. This has improved however and she no longer immediately hisses when he comes to the door (he is so curious about this new cat). The last couple of days they have both spent part of the day asleep by the closed door - I'm not sure if this is a good sign, or whether they are keeping an eye on each other?
We have also been trying to simultaneously feed them on either side of the door, and M has recently begun to eat - my boy D would eat even if there was a pack of dogs running around him!
We have opened the door a crack several times and M has hissed and yowled at the door, before retreating back a few steps and staring at the door. My boy answered the yowls the first time we did it but now just lies down and watches the door without any reaction.
What I guess I am asking is do people think this is a workable situation from the initial interactions or are we creating a lot of stress on our precious boy to no avail? Should we start considering letting them meet?
I will add that I bought a feliway diffuser today along with the spray and have it all plugged in next to the safe room that M is currently in.
Sorry for the length of this message, but I am really keen for any advice people can give me
I have a wonderful 1 year old male cat, he is sweet and very calm. Recently a friend has decided to go on work exchange abroad for the year and asked if I would care for her 12 year old female cat whilst she is gone. My husband and I agreed but only if the two cats would get on.
My boy is forever bringing home neighbourhood cats and seems to like cat company, my friend's cat is very sociable with people but has never lived with another cat. We understood that the fact my friend's cat had never lived with another cat would be difficult enough but that there is a big age gap between the two as well.
We knew the living situation probably wouldnt work but we were willing to try. We have followed lots of advice about slow introductions and sharing scents. My friend's cat M is in a 'safe room' and we have kept the door shut. Initially M hissed at the door whenever my boy D was near. This has improved however and she no longer immediately hisses when he comes to the door (he is so curious about this new cat). The last couple of days they have both spent part of the day asleep by the closed door - I'm not sure if this is a good sign, or whether they are keeping an eye on each other?
We have also been trying to simultaneously feed them on either side of the door, and M has recently begun to eat - my boy D would eat even if there was a pack of dogs running around him!
We have opened the door a crack several times and M has hissed and yowled at the door, before retreating back a few steps and staring at the door. My boy answered the yowls the first time we did it but now just lies down and watches the door without any reaction.
What I guess I am asking is do people think this is a workable situation from the initial interactions or are we creating a lot of stress on our precious boy to no avail? Should we start considering letting them meet?
I will add that I bought a feliway diffuser today along with the spray and have it all plugged in next to the safe room that M is currently in.
Sorry for the length of this message, but I am really keen for any advice people can give me