Hello everyone. Here is my short story of how I got here: I have a DMH cat that is about 2 years old. She (Beauty) is a sweet girl but does not like other cats very much. Because I fostered in the past, she has met a lot of other cats and became friends with some (very few) of them (male and female but usually younger than her).
Due to a situation with family members, I ended up with two more cats. I have tried to introduce, reintroduce, everything with these three cats without much luck.
This is the problem: Beauty would not quit hissing or growling, and it especially made Sammy (3 year old female Maine Coon Mix) very, very mad. We have played, eaten great food together, you name it, but the very moment things get quiet, Sammy attacks Beauty. Sammy acts like she is ignoring Beauty to relax Beauty, and then Sammy pounces. The last time, I think Beauty peed due to being so scared. It could have been Sammy that peed, I don't know really.
We now keep them separate, but I so want us to all get along and integrated. I love, love the two newcomers and do not want to rehome them. I also want to provide Beauty a safe and comfortable home.
I would like Beauty to not hiss, and I would like Sammy to not hunt Beauty like prey. Again, I have played with both of them until they are exhausted. All three can eat canned food in peace.
The third cat, while the situation is not perfect, is not a concern. I believe Beauty and Janie can get along.
Is there any advice for me? The ultimate goal is that we can all sit together in a room together peacefully and remain peacefully forever. We have had days with peace but probably because I am very protective of Beauty. Sammy knows I discourage discontent. It seems she can't help herself because she wants to get Beauty which is half her size.
This is wearing me out, but I am willing to do anything. The situation is frankly depressing since this has been going on since March.
Thank you very much for any help/advice.