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I am at my wit's end with my beautiful Tonkinese, Ari. We also have 2 other Tonks, Indi (male) and Kiki (female). All 3 are 8 years old and got along beautifully until December 2013. After Ari had his teeth cleaned at the vet, when he came home, something happened and he was suddenly petrified of Indi. Indi is half the size of Ari and has done nothing to make Ari afraid of him.
We separated them from December 2013 through January 2014. Then we were scheduled to head to Florida for 2 months. Miraculously, all 3 got along well in our motorhome for those months. However, when we returned home, the hissing and screaming started again. So we separated them again. For the next 11 months, we have tried everything we can think of. We tried re-introducing Ari and Indi (Kiki does not seem to be in the middle of all this), we've tried Bach flower essences, Rescue Remedy, Royal Canin Calm food, Ari wears a calming collar, we have a Feliway diffuser and Feliway calming spray, we've put Indi in a harness so he doesn't move as fast and can't scare Ari, playing separately and in view of each other, I've read behaviorist books, even consulted via Skype with a popular cat behaviorist, which was not inexpensive and followed all her instructions. She watched their behavior via Skype. We kept them separated, then did allo-rubbing on each cat, tried Jackson Galaxy's Spirit Essences, had Ari checked by the vet for any diseases.
Then this year we went to TX for March and April. Miraculously, they all got along again, even better than last year. Ari and Indi slept together, groomed each other, even played together. When we returned home, I went in the house first and plugged in our Feliway diffuser, which we had used in the motorhome, sprayed Feliway Comfort spray on the rugs and when we brought the carriers in, we let both the boys out at the same time, to avoid one thinking he had more 'ownership' than the other one. Within 5 hours, we were back to square one. I slept in the living room last night to hopefully get them through the first night. There was hissing, chasing and screaming during the night. We went back to the Rescue Remedy, Scaredy Cat and Star of Bethlehem today for Ari, but it doesn't seem to have made even a dent. Just now, he even hissed and swatted at Kiki, which he's never done before. My husband and I are desperate! We can't live like this.
I don't want to have to put Ari down, but it seems more and more like he has a mental problem that can't be fixed. Does anyone, anywhere have any ideas that we haven't tried? Please answer ASAP if you have any ideas at all! Thank you.
We separated them from December 2013 through January 2014. Then we were scheduled to head to Florida for 2 months. Miraculously, all 3 got along well in our motorhome for those months. However, when we returned home, the hissing and screaming started again. So we separated them again. For the next 11 months, we have tried everything we can think of. We tried re-introducing Ari and Indi (Kiki does not seem to be in the middle of all this), we've tried Bach flower essences, Rescue Remedy, Royal Canin Calm food, Ari wears a calming collar, we have a Feliway diffuser and Feliway calming spray, we've put Indi in a harness so he doesn't move as fast and can't scare Ari, playing separately and in view of each other, I've read behaviorist books, even consulted via Skype with a popular cat behaviorist, which was not inexpensive and followed all her instructions. She watched their behavior via Skype. We kept them separated, then did allo-rubbing on each cat, tried Jackson Galaxy's Spirit Essences, had Ari checked by the vet for any diseases.
Then this year we went to TX for March and April. Miraculously, they all got along again, even better than last year. Ari and Indi slept together, groomed each other, even played together. When we returned home, I went in the house first and plugged in our Feliway diffuser, which we had used in the motorhome, sprayed Feliway Comfort spray on the rugs and when we brought the carriers in, we let both the boys out at the same time, to avoid one thinking he had more 'ownership' than the other one. Within 5 hours, we were back to square one. I slept in the living room last night to hopefully get them through the first night. There was hissing, chasing and screaming during the night. We went back to the Rescue Remedy, Scaredy Cat and Star of Bethlehem today for Ari, but it doesn't seem to have made even a dent. Just now, he even hissed and swatted at Kiki, which he's never done before. My husband and I are desperate! We can't live like this.
I don't want to have to put Ari down, but it seems more and more like he has a mental problem that can't be fixed. Does anyone, anywhere have any ideas that we haven't tried? Please answer ASAP if you have any ideas at all! Thank you.
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