One of my indoor kitties is very feral and the only time we can pet her is when we are in bed. Then she will come and sit on us and purr while we brush her. I would suggest that you try using a brush. I use these from Sally's Beauty Supply lol, they are just a few dollars http://www.sallybeauty.com/hair-brush/SBS-217516,default,pd.html?cgid=Hair10 and my kitties (as well as the adoption center kitties) love them. They especially love to rub their teeth and mouths on them, and they love getting brushed on the side of their face and top of their heads. It must be like their mommy is grooming them LOL.