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This is Goose Goose:
Today I am not feeling like a confident cat mum .
Goose Goose is my first youngster and I'm trying my best to understand his behavior and bond with him properly. It is very different from my previous experiences so I could use guidance. The progress feels small and the setbacks are discouraging. I am trying to meet him where he is at, but to be honest I do wish he would be more affectionate toward me.
Here's the basics:
To be perfectly honest, I want kitty cuddles so bad and it's breaking my heart a little. I know that just isn't where he is at and I need to meet him where he is, so instead how can I make the best of our dynamic?
I have been curious about calming supplements but I don't know if my situation is appropriate for that kind of thing. I want him to be himself, I don't want stifle his natural big kitten energy unfairly, but I also want to make sure the other cat in the house isn't stressed by his dominance.
This is my first cat after my soul cat who passed a year and a half ago. My heart knows it's completely unfair to make comparisons and I am I'm trying my best to keep the expectations in check. Every animal is unique, and every bond is unique. I hope it's okay to say frankly the reality of moving on is incredibly painful.
I wish I was a more excited new cat ma, but there's been more discouragement than I was expecting. But that doesn't mean I don't love him, too. I would never write Goose Goose off as being "bad" I'm just venting a little, I hope that's understood. I'm still glad I brought this fella into my life
Thanks for helping me move forward
Today I am not feeling like a confident cat mum .
Goose Goose is my first youngster and I'm trying my best to understand his behavior and bond with him properly. It is very different from my previous experiences so I could use guidance. The progress feels small and the setbacks are discouraging. I am trying to meet him where he is at, but to be honest I do wish he would be more affectionate toward me.
Here's the basics:
- he is little over a 1 year old now, I brought him home at about 9-10 months old.
- he was rescued from a busy industrial worksite at about 6 months, the rest of his background is unknown
- he was neutered right after being trapped
- he was very guarded at the beginning, not aggressive but extremely defensive (scary percussive hissing!)
- after settling in he has become energetic and mischievous
- he initiates pets with me but sometimes will bite after one or two strokes, but only sometimes
- he doesn't respond to kicker toys but will grab my arm and kick and bite when I pet the other cat
- he plays like a madman and probably prone to over-stimulation
- he does not want to sleep in the bed with me but will sometimes follow me around the house
- he plays very rough with the 2 year old female in the house. she wants to cuddle him but he just wants to play fight and I worry it's too much for her
- he has lots of different types of toys/trees/scratchers but destruction/violence are his favorite activities
- he is scared of various things: walking around with shoes on, velcro, crinkly toys, plastic bags, jackets, etc.
- he doesn't attack when scared but I worry it sets back our bonding
- if I accidentally overstimulate him he takes it out on the other cat
- there are no other issues as far as appetite, litter box, or general health go
To be perfectly honest, I want kitty cuddles so bad and it's breaking my heart a little. I know that just isn't where he is at and I need to meet him where he is, so instead how can I make the best of our dynamic?
I have been curious about calming supplements but I don't know if my situation is appropriate for that kind of thing. I want him to be himself, I don't want stifle his natural big kitten energy unfairly, but I also want to make sure the other cat in the house isn't stressed by his dominance.
This is my first cat after my soul cat who passed a year and a half ago. My heart knows it's completely unfair to make comparisons and I am I'm trying my best to keep the expectations in check. Every animal is unique, and every bond is unique. I hope it's okay to say frankly the reality of moving on is incredibly painful.
I wish I was a more excited new cat ma, but there's been more discouragement than I was expecting. But that doesn't mean I don't love him, too. I would never write Goose Goose off as being "bad" I'm just venting a little, I hope that's understood. I'm still glad I brought this fella into my life
Thanks for helping me move forward