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I ran over my beloved cat with my car. She was 19 years old and strong, she should have lived forever. I hate myself and don't know how to function with this pain. I loved her so damn much and would never have imagined I would cause her untimely death. We adopted her when she was 2 years old. She was my best friend, my favorite person in the world. We would nap together in the sun, and I would listen to her breathe or watch her eyes twitch while she dreamed. She was full of attitude, vocal, cuddly, and quick to purr.
Every time I have a moment to myself, I relive the night I hit her, how if felt when my car went over her; saw her scared and in pain; in the hospital with the doctors doing CPR on her; bundled in the purple towel the doctors wrapped her in when she died, and how she felt when they placed her body in my arms. The last time I tickled her under her chin, when she was sitting on the dining room table next to a potted plant. What I hate most is that I usually check to make sure she's safe because she's old and I wanted her to live forever. I don't know why I was so confident she wasn't outside when I drove out of the driveway. I'm absolutely heartbroken and can't stop crying and feeling nauseous from the memories of what I did.
My family have been telling me not to be so hard on myself. That she was prone to escape the house at night, that it could have been anyone. To find consolation in knowing she had a long and happy life. That accidents happen. But I killed my best friend. I wish I had checked to make sure she was inside. I wish I had let her die at home, instead of putting through the misery of my driving and the hospital experience. I wish I hadn't given the doctor permission to do CPR, she must have hated it. She should have enjoyed this beautiful day with me and more. I'm heartbroken.
I'm posting here because people recommend sharing stories in forums for support. I honestly am not looking for forgiveness. I hate myself. But I don't want my grief to affect my other relationships and my work, and I'm hoping some solace comes from sharing this story. But today, right now, all I can do is cry. I'm heartbroken.
I'm heartbroken.
Every time I have a moment to myself, I relive the night I hit her, how if felt when my car went over her; saw her scared and in pain; in the hospital with the doctors doing CPR on her; bundled in the purple towel the doctors wrapped her in when she died, and how she felt when they placed her body in my arms. The last time I tickled her under her chin, when she was sitting on the dining room table next to a potted plant. What I hate most is that I usually check to make sure she's safe because she's old and I wanted her to live forever. I don't know why I was so confident she wasn't outside when I drove out of the driveway. I'm absolutely heartbroken and can't stop crying and feeling nauseous from the memories of what I did.
My family have been telling me not to be so hard on myself. That she was prone to escape the house at night, that it could have been anyone. To find consolation in knowing she had a long and happy life. That accidents happen. But I killed my best friend. I wish I had checked to make sure she was inside. I wish I had let her die at home, instead of putting through the misery of my driving and the hospital experience. I wish I hadn't given the doctor permission to do CPR, she must have hated it. She should have enjoyed this beautiful day with me and more. I'm heartbroken.
I'm posting here because people recommend sharing stories in forums for support. I honestly am not looking for forgiveness. I hate myself. But I don't want my grief to affect my other relationships and my work, and I'm hoping some solace comes from sharing this story. But today, right now, all I can do is cry. I'm heartbroken.
I'm heartbroken.