It looks like 2 friends of ours will be having a destination wedding; possibly sometime next year. I'm not sure exactly where; but I know somewhere tropical. I'm just wondering about how much it might cost DH and I to attend?
The girl and I go back to 10th grade biology. They were both in our wedding. I met the guy when DH and I were still just flirting and I introduced her to him. It took almost 9 years; but now they are together! And I can't imagine not being at her wedding!! Plus we have ALWAYS planned to be in eachothers weddings. Up until she started this destination business....
They want a nice wedding but don't want to spend a lot of $$. (He owns a business and has some; just doesn't want to spend it on that, which I understand) They see that as their best option to get the biggest bang for thier buck. While I know the wedding is primarily about them; I've been telling her all along that they have to realize some of the people they really care about being there might not be able to come!! At least I thought they really cared.
I'm a stay-at-home mom now. DH's vacations are "bidded" already. He's a low man on the totem pole still; so hes one of the last to get to pick his vacation times. Plus with us being former military; the 2 weeks he does get are already eaten up with the obligatory visits to each side of our family. Especially now that we have a baby. So between costs, childcare (whether we bring the baby or not; she won't even be 2 yet), and DH's work I just don't know that we will be able to go! Even if I were to go alone! That totally breaks my heart (and ok it makes me ANGRY at the same time). If I were still working and we didn't have a kid it might work. But i just don't know. We already have my cousin's wedding reception in July to figure out too. (And don't get me started on that one too.....what is it with people making it like jumping through flaming hoops to see them get married!?!?!?!)
This just really gets me lately. My cousin was my maid of honor and she's getting married at the court house in NYC; in the middle of the week. Then having a reception 2 months later. Now one of my oldest and best friends decides to get married in a whole different country. When I got married I had the traditional church wedding and reception. It was what I wanted; but I also made sure it wasn't going to be a hardship on the people I love to be there. While a wedding is about the couple getting married; your family and close friends are still an important part of the day!! It really hurts to think they've all chosen to make it so we can't be there to celebrate with them. It's not as if there aren't other options. And it's not as if these aren't people that I know well. They are all people that are VERY important to me!!
I know someone is going to say that they disagree with me on that last paragraph. But I feel horribly snubbed by the people who matter to me the most (besides my husband, child and parents of course). But it's not as if they don't want us there; they've just made it nearly impossible for us; so at the same time it feels like maybe the don't!
The girl and I go back to 10th grade biology. They were both in our wedding. I met the guy when DH and I were still just flirting and I introduced her to him. It took almost 9 years; but now they are together! And I can't imagine not being at her wedding!! Plus we have ALWAYS planned to be in eachothers weddings. Up until she started this destination business....
They want a nice wedding but don't want to spend a lot of $$. (He owns a business and has some; just doesn't want to spend it on that, which I understand) They see that as their best option to get the biggest bang for thier buck. While I know the wedding is primarily about them; I've been telling her all along that they have to realize some of the people they really care about being there might not be able to come!! At least I thought they really cared.
I'm a stay-at-home mom now. DH's vacations are "bidded" already. He's a low man on the totem pole still; so hes one of the last to get to pick his vacation times. Plus with us being former military; the 2 weeks he does get are already eaten up with the obligatory visits to each side of our family. Especially now that we have a baby. So between costs, childcare (whether we bring the baby or not; she won't even be 2 yet), and DH's work I just don't know that we will be able to go! Even if I were to go alone! That totally breaks my heart (and ok it makes me ANGRY at the same time). If I were still working and we didn't have a kid it might work. But i just don't know. We already have my cousin's wedding reception in July to figure out too. (And don't get me started on that one too.....what is it with people making it like jumping through flaming hoops to see them get married!?!?!?!)
This just really gets me lately. My cousin was my maid of honor and she's getting married at the court house in NYC; in the middle of the week. Then having a reception 2 months later. Now one of my oldest and best friends decides to get married in a whole different country. When I got married I had the traditional church wedding and reception. It was what I wanted; but I also made sure it wasn't going to be a hardship on the people I love to be there. While a wedding is about the couple getting married; your family and close friends are still an important part of the day!! It really hurts to think they've all chosen to make it so we can't be there to celebrate with them. It's not as if there aren't other options. And it's not as if these aren't people that I know well. They are all people that are VERY important to me!!
I know someone is going to say that they disagree with me on that last paragraph. But I feel horribly snubbed by the people who matter to me the most (besides my husband, child and parents of course). But it's not as if they don't want us there; they've just made it nearly impossible for us; so at the same time it feels like maybe the don't!