I understand your pain. I just got two kittens a couple days ago and I'm so attached to them already I don't know what I would do if anything happened to them. I'm glad I read this because I'm taking mine in this week for free examines to make sure all is well and I will make sure they don't do anything without my say. They were already netured the day before I got them, so I at least don't have to go through that.
Thank you for the kind thoughts. We are asking the clinic to make changes in their consent forms and take the extra time to explain exactly what they will be doing to your pet, allow people to opt out of procedures. Hope this will save another little kitty from suffering Violet's fate. I miss her every day.