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Easy, she is a girlfriend, not a wife. Get rid of her and keep the cat.Originally Posted by MightyMouse39
I have a situation. My girlfriend and I have been together coming up on 2 years, and recently moved 800 miles away from our homes to start a new life in another state.
Our relationship is generally wonderful. There is one issue, though. My cat, who I've had for 3.5 years.
We lived together for several months before moving (with my cat), so she was exposed to him as an animal that she lived with, and seemed to be okay with it. She always had a few issues with cats not being quite as trainable as dogs, but it was certainly never a big deal.
Since we've moved, it's gotten a lot worse. She loves him when he's being good and docile, but like all animals, he's not good sometimes. The rule is that he's not allowed on the furniture or tables, or in the bedroom.
As I said, though, sometimes he's not good. Sometimes he gets on the sofas or chairs. We had a brief issue with him clawing at the carpet near the bedroom door trying to get in, so we taped over it and he doesn't do it anymore. That doesn't keep my girlfriend from waking up in the middle of the night thinking she hears him, though.
This is a stressful thing for her. She worries about it constantly. She claims he's not trainable at all, though he's actually the most trainable cat I've ever seen, in that we've been able to train him to usually stay off the furniture, even when we're not there. She's gotten to the point where she's saying she may not be able to live with him.
I simply don't understand this perspective, as I'm very tolerant and he doesn't worry me in the slightest. I've tried very hard to be sympathetic, though, and have bent over backwards to try and fix things (if it were up to me, he could get into every room and on every piece of furniture in the house). I'm coming to the end of the things I can do, though, as no cat will be good 100% of the time.
Any suggestions? Yes, everything should have been spelled out before we moved, but I didn't know it was a problem at the time, and here were are now.
