Yesterday I reconnected with a friend of mine - we met when we were about 6 or 7, and he was my first ever crush
My mom used to make fun of me on how I'd swoon over him daily when I'd see him, or when I'd ask his mom to take me home. Lost contact for awhile, then in high school became friends again. He had been dating the same girl for awhile, so it was just a mini-re-crush I guess you could say. We hung out, I had other people on my mind anyway. I enjoyed being friends again, catching up, and bragging back and forth about our cars (we both had Camaros). I moved in 2004, haven't seen him since, but have each other as FB friends. Earlier in the week he added me on BlackBerry Messenger too.
I noticed some depressing things on FB and BBM, so started chatting, trying to cheer him up and lend an ear. We ended up "talking" for 2 hours on BBM, no biggie to me, OR to Rob. Talked about how he's been feeling like a blob of "blah" lately (I think he's pining for his ex [they have a 3 year old together], who's with someone else now). Also about diesel trucks (he had one built up, hubby & I want to do some stuff to ours, so he gave some advice), talked about jobs, blah blah. He's still just a friend. I did end up dreaming that it was the past, my brother and I were going to some "ball" held at a school, and I was hoping that my friend would show. In the dream, I was 17 again though, still in HS - it was some school dance. It had a lot of people I went to school with in it, just as we were back then.
The guys at work absolutely freaked that Rob didn't immediately tell me to cut contact with my friend, because of how 16 years ago I wanted to date him, even though the age of 7 is hardly dating age
And how when I was 16-17, which was 6-7 years ago, I momentarily thought about it too. All wayyy before I met hubby, btw.
It sounds to me as though my co-workers have been burned before because of something like that. Hubby and I established awhile ago we won't control who the other talks to; he still talks to almost all of his ex-girlfriends on FB, and I talk people I liked when I was younger (because we ended up friends instead!), and even my "ex". We have that trust that the other isn't going to run off with someone from their past, especially if they're only just a friend now. Neither of us would have gotten married if we were desiring to be with anyone else but each other.
So I guess I'm just seeing what other people have to say. I'm happy my friend and I reconnected. I still love my hubby with the undying feelings I've had since the beginning, its not like I woke up and changed my mind about anything or that I wished anything in my life were different
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My co-workers don't think that "trust" is a factor when talking to friends of the opposite sex, whether or not there was a past there, just that it shouldn't happen at all, no matter what.
I noticed some depressing things on FB and BBM, so started chatting, trying to cheer him up and lend an ear. We ended up "talking" for 2 hours on BBM, no biggie to me, OR to Rob. Talked about how he's been feeling like a blob of "blah" lately (I think he's pining for his ex [they have a 3 year old together], who's with someone else now). Also about diesel trucks (he had one built up, hubby & I want to do some stuff to ours, so he gave some advice), talked about jobs, blah blah. He's still just a friend. I did end up dreaming that it was the past, my brother and I were going to some "ball" held at a school, and I was hoping that my friend would show. In the dream, I was 17 again though, still in HS - it was some school dance. It had a lot of people I went to school with in it, just as we were back then.
The guys at work absolutely freaked that Rob didn't immediately tell me to cut contact with my friend, because of how 16 years ago I wanted to date him, even though the age of 7 is hardly dating age
It sounds to me as though my co-workers have been burned before because of something like that. Hubby and I established awhile ago we won't control who the other talks to; he still talks to almost all of his ex-girlfriends on FB, and I talk people I liked when I was younger (because we ended up friends instead!), and even my "ex". We have that trust that the other isn't going to run off with someone from their past, especially if they're only just a friend now. Neither of us would have gotten married if we were desiring to be with anyone else but each other.
So I guess I'm just seeing what other people have to say. I'm happy my friend and I reconnected. I still love my hubby with the undying feelings I've had since the beginning, its not like I woke up and changed my mind about anything or that I wished anything in my life were different
My co-workers don't think that "trust" is a factor when talking to friends of the opposite sex, whether or not there was a past there, just that it shouldn't happen at all, no matter what.