For the last month my mother-in-law has been living with my husband and I. We used to be really close, but she's now dealing with Alzheimer's and her personality has changed big time. She moved in because she could no longer be trusted to live alone as she started a small fire in her kitchen while attempting to fix herself dinner. This is supposed to only be temporary as they're looking for a place for her to move to that has experience taking care of people with her condition.
Everyday she cusses and belittles me for supposedly being pregnant out of wedlock. My husband and I have been married for four years, but she doesn't remember that. Even if we weren't, I don't find being pregnant without being married that big of a deal. She also shoved me pretty hard yesterday when I placed her lunch in front of her because the crust was still on her bread. That wasn't the first time she placed her hands on me either.
Not only does she get physical with me, but she also fusses constantly about the cats and yells at them to get out of her sight. I'm sorry but this is their house too and I'm not locking them up in our bedroom just to appease her. They were here first.
I really do love my mother-in-law so much, but having her here just isn't working out. I'm already a bit more emotional than usual because of my pregnancy, but constantly being called every name in the book everyday isn't easy to deal with. I know it isn't her true feelings, it's her horrible disease making her say and do these things but it still hurts. It's also hard for me to not snap back.
My husband is sympathetic, but it's his mom and he doesn't want to say too much to her and when he does speak up it doesn't do any good anyway. I hope I don't sound over dramatic, but I really that hope they're able to find a place where she'll be taken good care of sooner rather than later because I don't want my baby born into this kind of situation.
I'm sorry for rambling on and on, but I just needed somewhere to vent and since I come on here daily and love the site, this just seemed like the best place to do it.
Everyday she cusses and belittles me for supposedly being pregnant out of wedlock. My husband and I have been married for four years, but she doesn't remember that. Even if we weren't, I don't find being pregnant without being married that big of a deal. She also shoved me pretty hard yesterday when I placed her lunch in front of her because the crust was still on her bread. That wasn't the first time she placed her hands on me either.
Not only does she get physical with me, but she also fusses constantly about the cats and yells at them to get out of her sight. I'm sorry but this is their house too and I'm not locking them up in our bedroom just to appease her. They were here first.
I really do love my mother-in-law so much, but having her here just isn't working out. I'm already a bit more emotional than usual because of my pregnancy, but constantly being called every name in the book everyday isn't easy to deal with. I know it isn't her true feelings, it's her horrible disease making her say and do these things but it still hurts. It's also hard for me to not snap back.
My husband is sympathetic, but it's his mom and he doesn't want to say too much to her and when he does speak up it doesn't do any good anyway. I hope I don't sound over dramatic, but I really that hope they're able to find a place where she'll be taken good care of sooner rather than later because I don't want my baby born into this kind of situation.
I'm sorry for rambling on and on, but I just needed somewhere to vent and since I come on here daily and love the site, this just seemed like the best place to do it.
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Sending good vibes your way. I do have any good suggestions, it’s a tough situation all around and feel free to come and vent as much as you need. You should have someone to talk to. 
), and that this will be a dangerous environment for everyone once the baby arrives.
It's a great community for cat lovers to talk about problems with their pets but it's also a great community to call an "internet home".
I agree, I would talk to her caseworker about what is going on, and maybe they can speed things up. Congrats on the baby and I hope things go more smoothly from now on.
My mother suffered from dementia when I was pregnant with our second child. I won't say it's easy even though you know it's the disease taking control of her emotions. However, have you ever heard that frequently people who have Dementia/Alzheimer's take it out on the family members they love the most? I hope in some small way that makes you remember how she was prior to her diagnosis. 
I sure hope so too.
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