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Hello everyone. This is going to be long, but I really need some advice. I don't know if this post belongs here but I don't know where else to post it. I am a 22 year old college student. I have been rescuing cats for 3 years now, giving them foster, taking them to the vets and when they are ready, giving them for adoption. In the past month I had found homes for 12 cats and especially kittens. It has been very rough on me financially and emotionally because some people let me tell you, are really inconsiderate and liars. I always make sure though, that I am giving the cats to a responsible person who knows they have to be vaccinated, spayed/neutered and that they should keep them indoors if they live in the city or where there are dogs or a lot of cars. So far, from April to now May, I haven't had any really bad experiencies with the cats and their owners, except for yesterday.
This one lady who adopted a female kitten and has had her for a month now called me bawling her eyes out yesterday because the kitten was sneezing blood and she did not know what to do. I asked her if the kitty had been eating well and using the litter box. She said that the kitten had been active as usual and eating normally and also using the litter box. No sign of blood in the poop and she did not have diahrrea. Yesterday the vets were closed, so I told her please keep an eye on her at all times if possible and tomorrow take her to the vet. She said she didn't have any money until June 3rd. So I offered my help. I told her I would take her then and then when she gets her paycheck she can pay me back. She said ok and we planned to go today during the morning. Well, it's 1:37pm and I have not heard anything from her. Yesterday we first spoke at 8am that she called me until 10am. Then I went about my day and decided to call her around 3pm and ask for an update. She picked up after 15 calls (I did not called non stop, it took an hour and a half me calling and sending her messages because I got really scared something might have happened to the kitten) and told me she now sounded like Darth Vader whenever she breathe. I asked if she was being lethargic and she said that the kitten was still active and playing but still sneezing blood non stop. The blood she described it as pure red, not dark and it did not have any mucus or clear liquid with it, just blood. Anyway so I told her again, well we have to take her asap tomorrow and she confirmed it. But I had asked her if I could call at night for one last update and she said I could.
So I called around 9pm, the phone rang 2 times and then it went directly to the voicemail. It seemed as if she hanged up. I called one more time and this time it went straight to the voicemail so I know for sure she turned it off. I didn't think too much of it maybe she was already sleeping so I let it go and went to sleep also. Now today I woke up at 8am like we had planned and no call from her. I call around 8:30 and the phone was stil off!!! I went back to sleep and around 10:30 I woke up and no call again, so I called and AGAIN, PHONE OFF. I was like what the heck?! I checked on fb and she had not been online either. I waited until 12:30 and no call from her and phone still off.
Now at this point I am FREAKING OUT. Because I REALLY care a lot for all the cats I give up for adoption. I even went to her house since she had told me I could go any time, so I went and knocked on the door many times and nobody answered. I don't know if she was in the apartment or not but I couldn't really hear anything and since she lives in an apartment complex I have no way of knowing if she was out or something because I don't know what her new car looks like. I left in disappointment and anger not knowing what the heck is going on.
Now it is 1:52pm as I type this and she still has not turned on her phone nor logged on fb. I am sure she is purposely ignoring me, maybe something happened to the kitten, she might have died, and she doesn't want to tell me about it. Or if the kitten is still alive then why on earth has she not contacted me to take her to the vet?!!! I am losing my mind, either way it is very disrespectful for her to do this to me after I had helped her in the past with the kitten. I am desvastated thinking the kitten is dead because she did not care enough!!! Or if she is alive she is still sick and possibly in pain and needs to be checked!!! I know it is her cat now and not mine, but if she called me in the first place to let me know about this situation then the least she could do is be upfront and honest with me! I am very pissed and I am blaming myself for ever trusting this person and feel really depressed and guilty because of the kitten. I feel I made this happen. And it is situations like this one that make me want to back away from giving more cats for adoption. Because most people don't care as much as we rescuers do, or at least myself. Because I am devoted to helping as many cats as I can and feed the feral and stray ones on the streets. But honestly, this situation has me feeling really depressed because I am left WONDERING WHAT HAPPENED. And it is NOT a good feeling at all. I feel awful. Please, if someone could at least give me some words of courage or some advice on how to handle situations like these, let me know. I am sorry this is so long but I had to get it off my chest. Thank you.
This one lady who adopted a female kitten and has had her for a month now called me bawling her eyes out yesterday because the kitten was sneezing blood and she did not know what to do. I asked her if the kitty had been eating well and using the litter box. She said that the kitten had been active as usual and eating normally and also using the litter box. No sign of blood in the poop and she did not have diahrrea. Yesterday the vets were closed, so I told her please keep an eye on her at all times if possible and tomorrow take her to the vet. She said she didn't have any money until June 3rd. So I offered my help. I told her I would take her then and then when she gets her paycheck she can pay me back. She said ok and we planned to go today during the morning. Well, it's 1:37pm and I have not heard anything from her. Yesterday we first spoke at 8am that she called me until 10am. Then I went about my day and decided to call her around 3pm and ask for an update. She picked up after 15 calls (I did not called non stop, it took an hour and a half me calling and sending her messages because I got really scared something might have happened to the kitten) and told me she now sounded like Darth Vader whenever she breathe. I asked if she was being lethargic and she said that the kitten was still active and playing but still sneezing blood non stop. The blood she described it as pure red, not dark and it did not have any mucus or clear liquid with it, just blood. Anyway so I told her again, well we have to take her asap tomorrow and she confirmed it. But I had asked her if I could call at night for one last update and she said I could.
So I called around 9pm, the phone rang 2 times and then it went directly to the voicemail. It seemed as if she hanged up. I called one more time and this time it went straight to the voicemail so I know for sure she turned it off. I didn't think too much of it maybe she was already sleeping so I let it go and went to sleep also. Now today I woke up at 8am like we had planned and no call from her. I call around 8:30 and the phone was stil off!!! I went back to sleep and around 10:30 I woke up and no call again, so I called and AGAIN, PHONE OFF. I was like what the heck?! I checked on fb and she had not been online either. I waited until 12:30 and no call from her and phone still off.
Now at this point I am FREAKING OUT. Because I REALLY care a lot for all the cats I give up for adoption. I even went to her house since she had told me I could go any time, so I went and knocked on the door many times and nobody answered. I don't know if she was in the apartment or not but I couldn't really hear anything and since she lives in an apartment complex I have no way of knowing if she was out or something because I don't know what her new car looks like. I left in disappointment and anger not knowing what the heck is going on.
Now it is 1:52pm as I type this and she still has not turned on her phone nor logged on fb. I am sure she is purposely ignoring me, maybe something happened to the kitten, she might have died, and she doesn't want to tell me about it. Or if the kitten is still alive then why on earth has she not contacted me to take her to the vet?!!! I am losing my mind, either way it is very disrespectful for her to do this to me after I had helped her in the past with the kitten. I am desvastated thinking the kitten is dead because she did not care enough!!! Or if she is alive she is still sick and possibly in pain and needs to be checked!!! I know it is her cat now and not mine, but if she called me in the first place to let me know about this situation then the least she could do is be upfront and honest with me! I am very pissed and I am blaming myself for ever trusting this person and feel really depressed and guilty because of the kitten. I feel I made this happen. And it is situations like this one that make me want to back away from giving more cats for adoption. Because most people don't care as much as we rescuers do, or at least myself. Because I am devoted to helping as many cats as I can and feed the feral and stray ones on the streets. But honestly, this situation has me feeling really depressed because I am left WONDERING WHAT HAPPENED. And it is NOT a good feeling at all. I feel awful. Please, if someone could at least give me some words of courage or some advice on how to handle situations like these, let me know. I am sorry this is so long but I had to get it off my chest. Thank you.