I wasnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t going to post this here, I thought I would just keep my thoughts to myself, but then I remembered how supportive you guys are so even though it might seem lame I think I need some advice and support. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t normally tell people how I feel, so thanks in advance for reading..
Do you guys ever feel left out or excluded when it comes to having friends?
I have two “best friends†I suppose you could say. I am nothing but nice to these two girls. I am a shoulder to cry on, supportive, understanding, I remember birthdays send e-cards if they are unhappy, you name it I do it. No matter what I do, it seems like they always exclude me. They will go to festivals without calling me, go to the gym (that we all have a membership at) or to the beach or for walks on the boardwalk without even calling me, the list goes on and on. I try to take it with a grain of salt, but sometimes it really hurts and no matter how hard I try I canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t ignore that.
For example, we are all nutrition students at the same university and I had talked about the idea of planning a potluck and all three of us plus another friend bringing food. A week later they had it without me! I was so upset (I tried not to show it) and I finally cracked and talked to one of the girls and said “why would you guys not invite me?†then she said “well it was sort of spur of the moment†and I said “but WE planned this???†the only thing she could say was sorry, and that she felt bad, I didn't want to start any trouble so I just dropped it and let it go. Basically I think one of the girls has a grudge against me for some reason or another, and then the other girl just follows her… sort of thing.
I guess I just donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to be a third wheel, or a bother. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want them to include me if they donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t really want to. I have never given them any reason not to like me. The only thing I can think of is that one of my friends and I dated the same guy, I dated him first and she dated him a year later (before we were even friends) I think she may feel intimidated by me or something I just donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know. The girl that I think is jealous always has to be included in any events we have, to the point where she will race over if she knows I am alone with the other girl, sheâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s really competitive and I think sheâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s trying to bump me out of the group. I always try to include everyone, because I know how much it hurts to be excluded so itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not like I ever try to exclude her. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t need to be included all the time, but an invite here and there would be nice.
My worry is that theyâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]re talking about me behind my back and that maybe I shouldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t be friends with these girls? Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s also possible that I am over reacting or just too sensitive.
I know this may sound stupid to some people considering the other problems there are in the world but I am sitting here at work almost in tears over it and needed to get it out.
Anyone have any similar problems with their friends, and what do you guys think I should do?
Do you guys ever feel left out or excluded when it comes to having friends?
I have two “best friends†I suppose you could say. I am nothing but nice to these two girls. I am a shoulder to cry on, supportive, understanding, I remember birthdays send e-cards if they are unhappy, you name it I do it. No matter what I do, it seems like they always exclude me. They will go to festivals without calling me, go to the gym (that we all have a membership at) or to the beach or for walks on the boardwalk without even calling me, the list goes on and on. I try to take it with a grain of salt, but sometimes it really hurts and no matter how hard I try I canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t ignore that.
For example, we are all nutrition students at the same university and I had talked about the idea of planning a potluck and all three of us plus another friend bringing food. A week later they had it without me! I was so upset (I tried not to show it) and I finally cracked and talked to one of the girls and said “why would you guys not invite me?†then she said “well it was sort of spur of the moment†and I said “but WE planned this???†the only thing she could say was sorry, and that she felt bad, I didn't want to start any trouble so I just dropped it and let it go. Basically I think one of the girls has a grudge against me for some reason or another, and then the other girl just follows her… sort of thing.
I guess I just donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to be a third wheel, or a bother. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want them to include me if they donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t really want to. I have never given them any reason not to like me. The only thing I can think of is that one of my friends and I dated the same guy, I dated him first and she dated him a year later (before we were even friends) I think she may feel intimidated by me or something I just donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know. The girl that I think is jealous always has to be included in any events we have, to the point where she will race over if she knows I am alone with the other girl, sheâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s really competitive and I think sheâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s trying to bump me out of the group. I always try to include everyone, because I know how much it hurts to be excluded so itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not like I ever try to exclude her. I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t need to be included all the time, but an invite here and there would be nice.
My worry is that theyâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]re talking about me behind my back and that maybe I shouldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t be friends with these girls? Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s also possible that I am over reacting or just too sensitive.
I know this may sound stupid to some people considering the other problems there are in the world but I am sitting here at work almost in tears over it and needed to get it out.
Anyone have any similar problems with their friends, and what do you guys think I should do?