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I agree with you!!!Originally Posted by ClaireBear
In my opinion it's not okay to continually snoop through your children's conversations. Parent's need to develop an open and honest relationship with their kids, by doing so the child will feel safe coming to them if something is wrong. If the parent disregards the kids right to privacy it's going to make the child feel they have to hide everything. Or like in your case it's going to make having friends difficult. My parents were always concerned about my life when I was a kid, they'd ask questions and pay attention to my behavior, but they never snooped in my conversations.
Definitely if it's out their for everyone to see, but private emails and IM conversations?Originally Posted by libby74
DH & I were discussing this last night, after I'd already posted that I do, indeed, read DD's emails, facebook, myspace, etc from time to time. It occurred to both of us---if it's out there for millions of people across the world to read it's ok for us to read it, too.
I also check the history on DD's laptop occasionally. That's how I discovered my teenage daughter had visited several "adults only dating sites"shocked:
She didn't realize (apparently) what 'adults only' meant; after I explained she assures me she hasn't been back:
Sometimes you just have to check on them for their own good.
Yeah she deletes her history. She said she doesn't really care if he reads her conversations, but if he sees that she's been talking to any guys Dad freaks out. She's gets accused of meeting guys anytime she leaves the house. Even taking the dog for a walk. I started counting down the day till I was able to move out when I was 16 and I didn't move out until I went to college at 18. Dad is super controlling, the only thing that kept me going through high school was my horse Bonnet. My granny called me one day and told me I could get a horse and keep it at her house if I paid for everything. I jumped right on that! I had a good excuse to leave the house everyday.Originally Posted by lauracatlover
One of my ex-friend's mom and dad. They come over whilst she's on msn and read what peeps are saying in the convo. But anyway, she's an ex-friend, so I'm just not gonna speak about her
On msn there is a 'history' button where you can either show or hide the conversations that you'v had before. Has your sis used this? That way, he couldn't really spy on her, as the history won't have been saved
IMO I don't think watching over their shoulder is a good thing to do, that way they will deliberately do the opposite of what you say. My parents are nothing like that, all they want me to do is make sure I don't add anybody I don't know.