Okay, I'm still not sold on the lawyer thing, but I'm afraid of me or my daughter not getting everything we are entitled to get. So I'm trying to find one, tho' it's hard this week with little ears on vacation.
I keep getting advice from friends about things I should do, including one list that said:
This may sound nasty/vindictive, but it is NOT, trust me on this - you are just taking responsibility for you and Lauren.
1. Change the locks on your apartment. Do not provide anyway for him to get access.
2. Go to court and get a restraining order so he will be arrested if he does come into the residence. Say whatever you need to say, in order to get it. Make sure it says "No contact" for you or Lauren so he cannot harass either of you or use her as a pawn.
3. File in court an order for separate support. This will ensure you both go to court and he has to start giving you money.
4. Prepare any paperwork/proof you have of his income. Lifestyle is also a sort of proof.
5. Halt his visits with your daughter. Tell him you need to get everything in writing by a judge.
6. Inform her school of this as well - so he can't take her out of school.
please trust me because (unfortunately) I know all too well how to play this game. Stay strong.
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I mean, I don't think we're at this point, am I just being naive? I don't think he plans anything ahead enough for most of this to be a factor. I have keys etc. back from him, I obviously can't change the locks on an apartment. He is already giving us money and paying all our bills, tho' I know that won't continue indefinitely and I guess I don't really want it to. I don't know if it would be good for Lauren to halt visitation, she misses him terribly. Plus he would likely use that as a reason to stop paying what he already pays. And since all the bills are in his name and his mail is forwarded, I would have pretty much no way to prove his income. So, I don't know, feedback would sure be appreciated. Do all divorces have to become nasty?
I keep getting advice from friends about things I should do, including one list that said:
This may sound nasty/vindictive, but it is NOT, trust me on this - you are just taking responsibility for you and Lauren.
1. Change the locks on your apartment. Do not provide anyway for him to get access.
2. Go to court and get a restraining order so he will be arrested if he does come into the residence. Say whatever you need to say, in order to get it. Make sure it says "No contact" for you or Lauren so he cannot harass either of you or use her as a pawn.
3. File in court an order for separate support. This will ensure you both go to court and he has to start giving you money.
4. Prepare any paperwork/proof you have of his income. Lifestyle is also a sort of proof.
5. Halt his visits with your daughter. Tell him you need to get everything in writing by a judge.
6. Inform her school of this as well - so he can't take her out of school.
please trust me because (unfortunately) I know all too well how to play this game. Stay strong.
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I mean, I don't think we're at this point, am I just being naive? I don't think he plans anything ahead enough for most of this to be a factor. I have keys etc. back from him, I obviously can't change the locks on an apartment. He is already giving us money and paying all our bills, tho' I know that won't continue indefinitely and I guess I don't really want it to. I don't know if it would be good for Lauren to halt visitation, she misses him terribly. Plus he would likely use that as a reason to stop paying what he already pays. And since all the bills are in his name and his mail is forwarded, I would have pretty much no way to prove his income. So, I don't know, feedback would sure be appreciated. Do all divorces have to become nasty?