I think everyone here is absolutely right on target, about everything.
But even if this woman really isn't just using you, even if she and the relationship really are what you believe them to be... you still need to reconsider the way you're treating your parents.
I hate to say things like this to people, because you never know how it might hurt them, and I sure don't want to hurt you -- but this is a really serious situation, and I'm going to go ahead and say it: my friend, you need to go home and see your parents, help them out in any way you can, start paying them back instead of borrowing more, and (above all) demonstrate to them that you truly love them, as parents and as people.
I'm dependent on my family, too (though I hope to change that soon), so I can see this from your side as well as theirs, and I'm telling you -- whatever you can possibly do to show them love and support, right now and always, you need to be doing it. We never know how much time we have left with our loved ones... and your folks are sick. Cling to them.
And listen: you and I have some of the same problems in our lives, and I have a feeling we also share the awful conviction that "nobody will ever want me romantically." And sometimes people who feel that way will latch onto anyone who seems agreeable and try to make a romance out of it, ending up in "relationships" that aren't even worthy of the word. They go through all the motions, creating the appearance of a meaningful relationship... they build it up in their own minds until they really believe it has substance and depth... and they invest in it obsessively, always more time, more money, more emotion, all in a desperate effort to make something out of nothing.
But it doesn't work. It can't work. If it were true love, genuine and mutual, it would not be so one-sided. I think this woman is either "playing" you just as Linda said, or at best, she's merely accepting your interest in her... and all the benefits that come with it.
But you don't have to settle for someone who merely accepts you. You deserve someone who's head-over-heels in love with you -- and this woman is not.
Your parents obviously adore you, though.
Go see them, and focus on them for awhile. They need it.
But even if this woman really isn't just using you, even if she and the relationship really are what you believe them to be... you still need to reconsider the way you're treating your parents.
I hate to say things like this to people, because you never know how it might hurt them, and I sure don't want to hurt you -- but this is a really serious situation, and I'm going to go ahead and say it: my friend, you need to go home and see your parents, help them out in any way you can, start paying them back instead of borrowing more, and (above all) demonstrate to them that you truly love them, as parents and as people.
I'm dependent on my family, too (though I hope to change that soon), so I can see this from your side as well as theirs, and I'm telling you -- whatever you can possibly do to show them love and support, right now and always, you need to be doing it. We never know how much time we have left with our loved ones... and your folks are sick. Cling to them.
And listen: you and I have some of the same problems in our lives, and I have a feeling we also share the awful conviction that "nobody will ever want me romantically." And sometimes people who feel that way will latch onto anyone who seems agreeable and try to make a romance out of it, ending up in "relationships" that aren't even worthy of the word. They go through all the motions, creating the appearance of a meaningful relationship... they build it up in their own minds until they really believe it has substance and depth... and they invest in it obsessively, always more time, more money, more emotion, all in a desperate effort to make something out of nothing.
But it doesn't work. It can't work. If it were true love, genuine and mutual, it would not be so one-sided. I think this woman is either "playing" you just as Linda said, or at best, she's merely accepting your interest in her... and all the benefits that come with it.
But you don't have to settle for someone who merely accepts you. You deserve someone who's head-over-heels in love with you -- and this woman is not.
Your parents obviously adore you, though.