I can understand the "sadness" behind it.Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45
I don't get the "sadness" over a name. Names don't make a person who they are. IMO you should be proud enough to take your husband's name as you are now a part of him. The "two become one". Names don't change you at all. You are still two individual people but share the same last name.
All your life you are known by a particular name: Your father's name. It's become your identity. Suddenly 25 years later you are asked to give it up and take on a different name.
Yes, you are the same person, but it's also like you are relinquishing something that has been part of you and your life for 25 years. Something that your father gave you.
I know when and if I ever get married, I'm going to keep the name that I have. People marry each other for the person that they are, not because of their names. It shouldn't matter that one doesn't want to change their name.
Besides, why should the woman have to change her name to the man's? Why can't he change his to her last name instead? Chances are he wouldn't and doesn't want to because his last name is part of his identity.