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Hi,
I've never really wrote on forums asking for help before but I'm really reaching the end of my limit with my cat so I nee to vent a bit to people who may have been in similar situations and can hopefully offer me advice on how to deal with it.
My partner and I got Hugo about four months ago an he is now almost six months old, before we got him we don't really know much of his history and how long he was with his mother etc before being seperated. He's really healthy and has had a check up at the vets who said that he is completely fine and there are no health problems whatsoever.
We don't let him sleep in the bed with us as he doesn't sleep, gets excited during the night and starts scratching or biting really viciously and knocking things over in the room. He has his own bed in the living room and when he is put out of the bedroom on a night he cries and scratches at the door for a long time until he gives up and goes to sleep, however he'll wake up through the night and start trashing the room, he then cries on a morning for his breakfast. I've percervered and let him sleep in the bedroom for a few nights in a row so he can get used to it and maybe calm down but he doesnt, he still attacks and causes problems through the night. He has a bed and countless toys but he seems uninterested in all but one of the toys.
My partner works five days a week and also stays at his family home a few nights of the week so it is mainly me here dealing with Hugo. When I'm in the kitchen cooking things have gotten dangerous an I can't seem to stop his behaviour. He jumps up onto the oven while the hobs are on, he's pulled a frying pan of, luckily, cold oil off the hob, he's dived onto my back with open claws while I was bent getting something out of the oven causing me to fall onto the oven burning my hand on the shelf. I decided that when I was preparing meals I would simply put him out of the kitchen, when I do this he simply stands at the kitchen door screaming his head off, scratching the door and ripping my carpets to shreds in an attempt to get in the room. The noise and desire to not have my carpets ripped up is unbearable sometimes, I find myself purposefully buying things in shops that I can eat instantly instead of going through the process of cooking an contending with his behaviour.
I don't let Hugo in the room when I eat as he jumps on plates and will literally do anything that he can to get the food from my plate for himself so I put him out of the room. This causes the same reaction of screaming and ripping up the carpets, I feed him the same time that I eat and he just wolfs down the food so he can start attempting to get in the room to me and I now find myself eating as quick as possible to avoid this. It's just the same if I have a bath or a shower, he'll stand at the bathroom door screaming and ripping carpets, recently he's started doing it when I'm just using the toilet.
I know he's still only young but I've gone through countless sites looking for tips to help change his behaviour but nothing works, he now thinks water spray bottles are a game, he has no fear of water. Putting him out the room makes him worse, shouting no or telling him to stop doesn't work either. Nine times out of ten if I shout no at him he'll run over and attack me, lately his attacks have became worse, he can be laid on the bed with being all sleepy an comfy then out of nowhere he will just snap and attach himself to my arm or leg with his claws and teeth and refuses to get off till he's attacked, some times drawing blood.
I'm trying everything I can to be a good owner to him but I find myself getting more an more stressed as each day goes by, this may seem like small trivial things to a lot of people but as a first time cat owner I am really struggling to cope with it all.
Thanks in advance for any advice
I've never really wrote on forums asking for help before but I'm really reaching the end of my limit with my cat so I nee to vent a bit to people who may have been in similar situations and can hopefully offer me advice on how to deal with it.
My partner and I got Hugo about four months ago an he is now almost six months old, before we got him we don't really know much of his history and how long he was with his mother etc before being seperated. He's really healthy and has had a check up at the vets who said that he is completely fine and there are no health problems whatsoever.
We don't let him sleep in the bed with us as he doesn't sleep, gets excited during the night and starts scratching or biting really viciously and knocking things over in the room. He has his own bed in the living room and when he is put out of the bedroom on a night he cries and scratches at the door for a long time until he gives up and goes to sleep, however he'll wake up through the night and start trashing the room, he then cries on a morning for his breakfast. I've percervered and let him sleep in the bedroom for a few nights in a row so he can get used to it and maybe calm down but he doesnt, he still attacks and causes problems through the night. He has a bed and countless toys but he seems uninterested in all but one of the toys.
My partner works five days a week and also stays at his family home a few nights of the week so it is mainly me here dealing with Hugo. When I'm in the kitchen cooking things have gotten dangerous an I can't seem to stop his behaviour. He jumps up onto the oven while the hobs are on, he's pulled a frying pan of, luckily, cold oil off the hob, he's dived onto my back with open claws while I was bent getting something out of the oven causing me to fall onto the oven burning my hand on the shelf. I decided that when I was preparing meals I would simply put him out of the kitchen, when I do this he simply stands at the kitchen door screaming his head off, scratching the door and ripping my carpets to shreds in an attempt to get in the room. The noise and desire to not have my carpets ripped up is unbearable sometimes, I find myself purposefully buying things in shops that I can eat instantly instead of going through the process of cooking an contending with his behaviour.
I don't let Hugo in the room when I eat as he jumps on plates and will literally do anything that he can to get the food from my plate for himself so I put him out of the room. This causes the same reaction of screaming and ripping up the carpets, I feed him the same time that I eat and he just wolfs down the food so he can start attempting to get in the room to me and I now find myself eating as quick as possible to avoid this. It's just the same if I have a bath or a shower, he'll stand at the bathroom door screaming and ripping carpets, recently he's started doing it when I'm just using the toilet.
I know he's still only young but I've gone through countless sites looking for tips to help change his behaviour but nothing works, he now thinks water spray bottles are a game, he has no fear of water. Putting him out the room makes him worse, shouting no or telling him to stop doesn't work either. Nine times out of ten if I shout no at him he'll run over and attack me, lately his attacks have became worse, he can be laid on the bed with being all sleepy an comfy then out of nowhere he will just snap and attach himself to my arm or leg with his claws and teeth and refuses to get off till he's attacked, some times drawing blood.
I'm trying everything I can to be a good owner to him but I find myself getting more an more stressed as each day goes by, this may seem like small trivial things to a lot of people but as a first time cat owner I am really struggling to cope with it all.
Thanks in advance for any advice