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I adopted a 1 year old female cat just about two weeks ago. The foster said she was very affectionate and sweet (stayed with the foster for 3 weeks). Although I didn't get that impression when I made a visit, because she hid under the couch the entire time (a sign I shoulda been aware of), I believed and expected an affectionate cat. I know it's only been two weeks but I'm starting to think I've adopted a very shy and nervous cat and perhaps not so affectionate as the foster claimed.
Some behaviors that are confusing...
I'm hoping this is something temporary and she'll let me pet her eventually but it's really hard to tell and her actions are confusing. She looks comfortable around but her tail says otherwise. She purrs and headbutts for food but doesn't truly like being touched. This was my first time adopting a cat and I really wanted to an affectionate one. Has anyone experienced something similar? What can I do to let her pet me? Her unexpected bites and scratches are kind of scary and I'm worried that I didn't get the right cat for me.
Some behaviors that are confusing...
- So far I've noticed that she's only affectionate when she wants to be fed or she thinks its meal time. She'll walk back and forth near my legs, purr, rub her face against my legs, she'll let me pet her from head to trunk and I occasionally rub her chin. During this time she's bit me (not hard, but not that soft either) at least 4 times and it's really unexpected because she looks fine. I get a little surprised and pull away and in result she's scratched me twice (pretty badly, she has very sharp nails right now). I'm assuming this because I scare her when I pull away.
- She lets me pet her when she's eating, I take this opportunity to groom her fur. She lets me grab her paw for 2 seconds but then pulls away while still eating. I could never lay a finger on her paws if she wasn't eating so I haven't had the chance to cut her nails.
- During the day she usually hides under my bed and plays with a feather toy from underneath. Sometimes I'm successful with getting her to play out in the open. After several minutes she gets this weird look and then runs underneath the bed again.
- I've noticed the tip of her tails vibrates like a rattlesnake at random times, even when she looks completely relaxed. I think this is a sign of nervousness or anxiety around my presence.
- During the evening she lays down on my bed near my feet but I can't pet her. She'll try to hit my hand or bite me.. but she's been unsuccessful so far.
I'm hoping this is something temporary and she'll let me pet her eventually but it's really hard to tell and her actions are confusing. She looks comfortable around but her tail says otherwise. She purrs and headbutts for food but doesn't truly like being touched. This was my first time adopting a cat and I really wanted to an affectionate one. Has anyone experienced something similar? What can I do to let her pet me? Her unexpected bites and scratches are kind of scary and I'm worried that I didn't get the right cat for me.