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This is a long post so please bear with me.
Two years ago we adopted our daughters kitten (5 months old) and added her to our family of 3 resident cats. She bonded with one of our cats that was the same age and generally was tolerated by the other residents.
Our one older female resident was bonded with our big orange boy and he seemed to be the KING among the females.This older female never had any issues with the new kitten even as she grew older. They didn't snuggle but did interact and didn't have any spats or fights,not even hissing or growling.
Turns out the now 2 year old new kitten has chronic cystitis and was peeing everywhere but the litter box.We consulted our vet, put her on special diet and a medication to help her and she was doing great
Then this past December,our big boy passed away unexpectedly and the female that was bonded with him went into a depression and she started taking her angst out on the newer female and she also started spraying everywhere.She would bully the newer cat and start fights.
Of course with chronic cystitis, any stress can cause a flare up and sure enough the newer female started peeing everywhere again because of the bullying the older female was causing.
We gave the newer cat a room of her own so she could de stress when she needed it and the other cats are not allowed in her room.It has her bed and other things she loves and she does use it all the time and sleeps in there overnight.
We also took the older female to the vet and put her on a medication to help with her stress and stop her spraying.
We realize that the older female still misses her buddy and things have calmed down a bit between her and the youngest female but there is always room for improvement. Both cats have been on medication now for a year.
The younger female has made amazing progress in that she rarely has a flare up now, is more playful and a much happier cat.We can never rehome her because rescues in my area will not take on a cat that has cystitis.
I always felt that our big male added a kind of balance to this group of three females and also kept them in line somewhat.
My question is (finally) is it a good idea now to bring in a male kitten (as we miss our big boy)
Thank MEW
Two years ago we adopted our daughters kitten (5 months old) and added her to our family of 3 resident cats. She bonded with one of our cats that was the same age and generally was tolerated by the other residents.
Our one older female resident was bonded with our big orange boy and he seemed to be the KING among the females.This older female never had any issues with the new kitten even as she grew older. They didn't snuggle but did interact and didn't have any spats or fights,not even hissing or growling.
Turns out the now 2 year old new kitten has chronic cystitis and was peeing everywhere but the litter box.We consulted our vet, put her on special diet and a medication to help her and she was doing great
Then this past December,our big boy passed away unexpectedly and the female that was bonded with him went into a depression and she started taking her angst out on the newer female and she also started spraying everywhere.She would bully the newer cat and start fights.
Of course with chronic cystitis, any stress can cause a flare up and sure enough the newer female started peeing everywhere again because of the bullying the older female was causing.
We gave the newer cat a room of her own so she could de stress when she needed it and the other cats are not allowed in her room.It has her bed and other things she loves and she does use it all the time and sleeps in there overnight.
We also took the older female to the vet and put her on a medication to help with her stress and stop her spraying.
We realize that the older female still misses her buddy and things have calmed down a bit between her and the youngest female but there is always room for improvement. Both cats have been on medication now for a year.
The younger female has made amazing progress in that she rarely has a flare up now, is more playful and a much happier cat.We can never rehome her because rescues in my area will not take on a cat that has cystitis.
I always felt that our big male added a kind of balance to this group of three females and also kept them in line somewhat.
My question is (finally) is it a good idea now to bring in a male kitten (as we miss our big boy)
Thank MEW