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We have 2 male cats (brothers, both neutered, just turned 1 yr old) and one of them (T) has recently started this "affection eating" or "attention eating" behaviour.
T has always been clingy and has had to deal with some anxiety issues in the past, but his love of food has always conquered any fear or worry.. until now.
It just started a few days ago and I have no idea why.
He knows where his food is and will sit next to it, meow (loud, long) at us until we walk over to him, pet him/talk to him and watch him eat.
Since this behaviour started we have moved the dishes slightly so that instead of staring at the wall with his back exposed to the room now he has his back 'guarded' by the wall and has full view of the entire room. We had hoped that might help resolve the issue but it hasn't made a difference.
We have attempted to 'ignore' this behaviour but he refuses to eat unless we go to him. Sometimes we will let him walk away in hopes that he gets hungry enough to eat later, but by the end of the night, if I haven't seen him eat I'm too concerned to go to sleep until I know he's eaten so I will sit with him while he eats one big meal.
We haven't changed anything (litter, food etc) or moved anything in the house. There hasn't been any change to our normal schedule or routine.
It's cute that he wants company during his meals, but I worry about the cause of this behaviour. I'm concerned he's not eating at all if we aren't home or awake.
I don't want to stray too far from the reason for this post but in case it makes a difference, some other anxiety issues T has been dealing with:
- Separation Anxiety: when he was younger it was so bad that even if 1 of us was gone for a night he would break out into Feline Acne (stress induced, obviously). He has overcome this and can handle being left alone now without loosing his mind.
I work from the home, and my boyfriend is never gone for more than a few hours at a time for work/school so he is almost always has a human home with him.
- Hallway meowing: He will just stand in the hallway or on a cat tower and 'howl' for us (attention).
We have taught him that if he wants attention he has to come to us for it, by essentially ignoring his meows, sometimes making noises (like a fake cough or humming) so he knew where we were (rewarding him for 'finding us').
After he meows for a few mins he will come to us, and if you just sit or lay with him for 5-10 mins he will be fine (no roaming and howling) for a couple of hours.
T and his brother (S) were orphaned at a very young age, we found them after a bad storm with their dead mother. This has obviously impacted them, they weren't weaned off milk when she died so they have both retained the suckling behaviour (chew, suck/lick fingers... usually before a nap).
T fell in love with us instantly, but needs constant attention: he usually hates being the only one in a room, will follow us around the entire house and loves to be held/carried and cradled like a baby. He sleeps with us every night (though he doesn't usually stay the entire night, he comes and goes).
S was nervous of us at first, but warmed up significantly in the first few months. He doesn't need attention as often as his brother, he prefers to only show affection 1-on-1 (when nobody else is watching) and is content spending the day alone playing with the bathroom sink. He is good to his anxious brother and usually checks on him when he gets upset. S hasn't displayed any of the anxiety or issues that his brother has.
Some articles/forums have suggested the usual cause is aggression between cats, this is not the case for us. They get along very well. Cuddle/sleep together, play fight and run around together. I know for certain it is not due to bullying or anything like that.
Any ideas on what could have caused this sudden change in behaviour? OR What I can do to help him get over/through this?
Thanks in advance to anyone who takes time to help us out!
T has always been clingy and has had to deal with some anxiety issues in the past, but his love of food has always conquered any fear or worry.. until now.
It just started a few days ago and I have no idea why.
He knows where his food is and will sit next to it, meow (loud, long) at us until we walk over to him, pet him/talk to him and watch him eat.
Since this behaviour started we have moved the dishes slightly so that instead of staring at the wall with his back exposed to the room now he has his back 'guarded' by the wall and has full view of the entire room. We had hoped that might help resolve the issue but it hasn't made a difference.
We have attempted to 'ignore' this behaviour but he refuses to eat unless we go to him. Sometimes we will let him walk away in hopes that he gets hungry enough to eat later, but by the end of the night, if I haven't seen him eat I'm too concerned to go to sleep until I know he's eaten so I will sit with him while he eats one big meal.
We haven't changed anything (litter, food etc) or moved anything in the house. There hasn't been any change to our normal schedule or routine.
It's cute that he wants company during his meals, but I worry about the cause of this behaviour. I'm concerned he's not eating at all if we aren't home or awake.
I don't want to stray too far from the reason for this post but in case it makes a difference, some other anxiety issues T has been dealing with:
- Separation Anxiety: when he was younger it was so bad that even if 1 of us was gone for a night he would break out into Feline Acne (stress induced, obviously). He has overcome this and can handle being left alone now without loosing his mind.
I work from the home, and my boyfriend is never gone for more than a few hours at a time for work/school so he is almost always has a human home with him.
- Hallway meowing: He will just stand in the hallway or on a cat tower and 'howl' for us (attention).
We have taught him that if he wants attention he has to come to us for it, by essentially ignoring his meows, sometimes making noises (like a fake cough or humming) so he knew where we were (rewarding him for 'finding us').
After he meows for a few mins he will come to us, and if you just sit or lay with him for 5-10 mins he will be fine (no roaming and howling) for a couple of hours.
T and his brother (S) were orphaned at a very young age, we found them after a bad storm with their dead mother. This has obviously impacted them, they weren't weaned off milk when she died so they have both retained the suckling behaviour (chew, suck/lick fingers... usually before a nap).
T fell in love with us instantly, but needs constant attention: he usually hates being the only one in a room, will follow us around the entire house and loves to be held/carried and cradled like a baby. He sleeps with us every night (though he doesn't usually stay the entire night, he comes and goes).
S was nervous of us at first, but warmed up significantly in the first few months. He doesn't need attention as often as his brother, he prefers to only show affection 1-on-1 (when nobody else is watching) and is content spending the day alone playing with the bathroom sink. He is good to his anxious brother and usually checks on him when he gets upset. S hasn't displayed any of the anxiety or issues that his brother has.
Some articles/forums have suggested the usual cause is aggression between cats, this is not the case for us. They get along very well. Cuddle/sleep together, play fight and run around together. I know for certain it is not due to bullying or anything like that.
Any ideas on what could have caused this sudden change in behaviour? OR What I can do to help him get over/through this?
Thanks in advance to anyone who takes time to help us out!