This may be a complicated tale, but I want to get the facts straight if I can, so please bear with me.
Bonnie and Clyde are brother and sister European shorthairs, about eighteen months old. They both have free run of the house and can go outside whenever they please. Clyde is not particularly big compared to most cats, but is quite muscular and (and this is the problem) doesn't know his own strength. Bonnie is more intelligent, but also much smaller.
Initially, the two were inseparable, but grew apart somewhat -- this disappointed us, but things didn't seem especially bad. Clyde adored -- and still adores -- Bonnie, but Bonnie has been less tolerant of him and would frequently growl or hiss at him to back off if he came too close. Although oddly they would often eat out of the same dish without any problem.
That changed a week ago, when Clyde attacked Bonnie as if he didn't recognise her, and chased her out of the house. He then gave Bonnie's favourite sleeping place a good sniff, so I think Bonnie must have come home smelling of something that set Clyde off.
Since then, Clyde hasn't tried to attack Bonnie; on the contrary, he still adores her and just wants her company. Unfortunately, this incident scared Bonnie so much, she's even more nervous of him than before, and is staying away sometimes for 24 hours at a time, coming home to eat and perhaps sleep if she thinks she can get some peace.
Sometimes things seem to be improving; just two days ago, I had them both in the same room and feeding them their favourite treat, and that went without incident. Other times, Bonnie bolts as soon as she sees Clyde, and unfortunately Clyde will then lumber after her with no malicious intent at all, but this just spooks her even more. This then upsets Clyde, who simply doesn't understand why this is happening, and the whole thing seems to be making him depressed.
We have one advantage at the moment. The way our house is built, we can close off access to the stairwell. In practice, this means we can have Bonnie upstairs and Clyde downstairs, and arrange for either one of them (but not both at the same time) to also have access to outdoors (they have access through the cellar). However, we're in the process of buying some land elsewhere and are going to build a house on it which we will be moving into spring or summer next year, and that option won't be available to us any more.
I would really like to know what we can do about this. We have two very upset cats, one of which is also extremely rattled, and we're not exactly finding it easy. I'm not convinced that Bach flower remedies are the miracle cure my wife hopes they will be, but what can we do to a) calm Bonnie down and restore her trust in Clyde, and b) get Clyde to stop running after her all the time?
Bonnie and Clyde are brother and sister European shorthairs, about eighteen months old. They both have free run of the house and can go outside whenever they please. Clyde is not particularly big compared to most cats, but is quite muscular and (and this is the problem) doesn't know his own strength. Bonnie is more intelligent, but also much smaller.
Initially, the two were inseparable, but grew apart somewhat -- this disappointed us, but things didn't seem especially bad. Clyde adored -- and still adores -- Bonnie, but Bonnie has been less tolerant of him and would frequently growl or hiss at him to back off if he came too close. Although oddly they would often eat out of the same dish without any problem.
That changed a week ago, when Clyde attacked Bonnie as if he didn't recognise her, and chased her out of the house. He then gave Bonnie's favourite sleeping place a good sniff, so I think Bonnie must have come home smelling of something that set Clyde off.
Since then, Clyde hasn't tried to attack Bonnie; on the contrary, he still adores her and just wants her company. Unfortunately, this incident scared Bonnie so much, she's even more nervous of him than before, and is staying away sometimes for 24 hours at a time, coming home to eat and perhaps sleep if she thinks she can get some peace.
Sometimes things seem to be improving; just two days ago, I had them both in the same room and feeding them their favourite treat, and that went without incident. Other times, Bonnie bolts as soon as she sees Clyde, and unfortunately Clyde will then lumber after her with no malicious intent at all, but this just spooks her even more. This then upsets Clyde, who simply doesn't understand why this is happening, and the whole thing seems to be making him depressed.
We have one advantage at the moment. The way our house is built, we can close off access to the stairwell. In practice, this means we can have Bonnie upstairs and Clyde downstairs, and arrange for either one of them (but not both at the same time) to also have access to outdoors (they have access through the cellar). However, we're in the process of buying some land elsewhere and are going to build a house on it which we will be moving into spring or summer next year, and that option won't be available to us any more.
I would really like to know what we can do about this. We have two very upset cats, one of which is also extremely rattled, and we're not exactly finding it easy. I'm not convinced that Bach flower remedies are the miracle cure my wife hopes they will be, but what can we do to a) calm Bonnie down and restore her trust in Clyde, and b) get Clyde to stop running after her all the time?