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our cat Teddy, we adopted from the shelter on 8/.8/14. He was sweet as can be when we got him. Not shy at all, not overly outgoing but loved being pet. Well..... now he is kind of aloof. he asks for attention and rubs on my ankles and lets us pet him but he's gotten quite touchy. I am PRETTY sure that this is because of my 4 yo daughter. But not 100% sure. She has pestered him alot. Which we are constantly discouraging and telling her not to do xyz to him. She LOVES him. She isnt truely mean. But she just won't leave him alone! She gets in his face and pets him and he flattens his ears and she just does not "get it" till he bites her. I've taken to keeping her with me almost all the time, giving her more activities and things to do so that she isn't bothering him. I've told her the rules of what we do NOT do to a cat, (no hitting, kicking, no petting him when he's sleeping or laying around on the floor. wait till he comes to her and then let him sniff and pet his back/back of his head, not near his eyes. No pulling his tail etc. ) I let her help me feed him. I let her play with him appropriately with HIS toys. But the 2 seconds I turn my back she's following him around like a flea on a dog, not giving him space etc.
Before we realized she couldn't be trusted, she would provoke him into chasing games (because she thought he was playing!) but when I finally saw what she was doing I immediatly knew he was PISSED and not playing at all. She would hit at him to get Teddy to play back or kick him to get him to run. Oh my gosh. I feel so horrible for him because I can completely understand why he bites.
But now that i am keeping my daughter away from him 95% of the time and keeping an eagle eye on her.... how do I get him to trust us again? will he always bite? He has no claws (we adopted from the shelter and his former owners declawed him ) He was so sweet when he came home. He does give me hope, when he comes up voluntarily and rubs on me and asks to be pet. But this afternoon he did that then turned around and bit me. I pulled my hand back and said "no". Then ignored him. And he reached out and bit my ankle even though i wasn't doing anything! So sad. what can I do to discourage biting and to help him trust us?
Any tips from been there done that parents of little kids who have cats? My daughter really is a sweet girl and loves animals. But honestly she doesn't read behaviour or body language very well, despite my repeatedly telling her what a happy cat, angry cat, frustated cat etc look like. Honestly (based on other things we deal with) I am suspicious that she may be on the autism spectrum. She's pretty verbal but just doesn't get why Teddy doesn't want to "play". She says she likes to kick him and when I ask why , she says, "because I want him to run, he likes to run!" I think she truely thinks he is having fun because she is. She cries and is so sad when I tell her he is not having fun and doesn't like that.
frustrated.
Before we realized she couldn't be trusted, she would provoke him into chasing games (because she thought he was playing!) but when I finally saw what she was doing I immediatly knew he was PISSED and not playing at all. She would hit at him to get Teddy to play back or kick him to get him to run. Oh my gosh. I feel so horrible for him because I can completely understand why he bites.
But now that i am keeping my daughter away from him 95% of the time and keeping an eagle eye on her.... how do I get him to trust us again? will he always bite? He has no claws (we adopted from the shelter and his former owners declawed him ) He was so sweet when he came home. He does give me hope, when he comes up voluntarily and rubs on me and asks to be pet. But this afternoon he did that then turned around and bit me. I pulled my hand back and said "no". Then ignored him. And he reached out and bit my ankle even though i wasn't doing anything! So sad. what can I do to discourage biting and to help him trust us?
Any tips from been there done that parents of little kids who have cats? My daughter really is a sweet girl and loves animals. But honestly she doesn't read behaviour or body language very well, despite my repeatedly telling her what a happy cat, angry cat, frustated cat etc look like. Honestly (based on other things we deal with) I am suspicious that she may be on the autism spectrum. She's pretty verbal but just doesn't get why Teddy doesn't want to "play". She says she likes to kick him and when I ask why , she says, "because I want him to run, he likes to run!" I think she truely thinks he is having fun because she is. She cries and is so sad when I tell her he is not having fun and doesn't like that.
frustrated.