Yesterday we had to say goodbye to our wee boy, Mr Karl. I am beyond heartbroken and the guilt i feel for having him put to sleep is indescribable, it's eating me up!
We adopted Mr Karl from the cats protection six years ago when he was 13. Over the years he's had several health issues from time to time and many people had said maybe it's time to let gim go, which would make me really angry; there was no way we were giving up on him so easily. Every time there has been something wrong with him he pulled through amazingly and went back to being his wee happy self. He truly was a trooper!
Five weeks ago he was diagnosed with heart failure and had fluid on his lungs. The vet put him on diuretics to get rid of the fluid and, long story short, he was doing well. He had a check up about a week and a half ago and the vet picked up he had also developed an arrythmia. She said we needed to monitor his quality of life. Tuesday night just past, my partner woke me up at half past midnight saying Mr Karl wasn't well; he had been sick several times and he seemed really distressed and was frantically walking about the house yowling! He kept hiding in places he never would go before, like the drawer under the bed. We placed his bed under the desk in our living room and he settled there and stopped yowling. He never moved all night and wouldn't respond when we patted him/talked to him (he would normally make a purr/chirp noise when we did that). We stayed up with him the whole night. At one point he did get up and peed and pooped on the floor, he has never done that before. A couple times he got up, would stumble, go to his water bowl stand over it and just stare at it for a while then go back to his bed.
The vet came out to the house checked him over and said his heart rate was fast and she suspected his blood pressure was really high and it had altered his state of mind and that's why he was being so odd at his water bowl. I don't know if I believe this! She said there was nothing else we could do for him and he would continue to get weaker. At this point he got up went to his water bowl and started drinking! But then continued going between his three water bowls hunched over staring at them. The vet said he wouldn't get any better and it would be the kindest thing to do and let him go. I couldn't sign the consent form, my partner had to do it. I was holding him when they put the sedative in his leg, he proper hissed and pulled away, I'm convinced that was his way of saying "f off I'm going to get better". We put him on his bed for the vet to give him the overdose of anaesthetic. She said it would take a couple minutes to ten minutes for him to slip away after it being given; he was gone before they finished injecting it all. My partner says he thinks that shows how weak his heart was as he went so quickly.
I am so sorry for this essay! But I feel like I had to give all this info as I need to give the whole story. I have never felt this horrific in my life! I miss my boy so so so much, I just want him back! I feel broken! I'm consumed with guilt, I feel like I've let our boy down. I keep thinking what if there was something else we could have done to help, but we didn't do anything else for him and now he's gone and I can't cope! People keep saying we did the right thing for him, but who am I to end his wee life. He trusted us to look after him and we let this happen to him!
Has anyone felt this horrendous guilt? How did you deal with it? I feel like I can't live with this guilt and that we no longer have our boy! I've been physically sick with how I'm feeling. I feel like I've massively let him down and wherever he is he's angry with us.
Has anyone felt the same way in this situation?
Please help me,
Sara
We adopted Mr Karl from the cats protection six years ago when he was 13. Over the years he's had several health issues from time to time and many people had said maybe it's time to let gim go, which would make me really angry; there was no way we were giving up on him so easily. Every time there has been something wrong with him he pulled through amazingly and went back to being his wee happy self. He truly was a trooper!
Five weeks ago he was diagnosed with heart failure and had fluid on his lungs. The vet put him on diuretics to get rid of the fluid and, long story short, he was doing well. He had a check up about a week and a half ago and the vet picked up he had also developed an arrythmia. She said we needed to monitor his quality of life. Tuesday night just past, my partner woke me up at half past midnight saying Mr Karl wasn't well; he had been sick several times and he seemed really distressed and was frantically walking about the house yowling! He kept hiding in places he never would go before, like the drawer under the bed. We placed his bed under the desk in our living room and he settled there and stopped yowling. He never moved all night and wouldn't respond when we patted him/talked to him (he would normally make a purr/chirp noise when we did that). We stayed up with him the whole night. At one point he did get up and peed and pooped on the floor, he has never done that before. A couple times he got up, would stumble, go to his water bowl stand over it and just stare at it for a while then go back to his bed.
The vet came out to the house checked him over and said his heart rate was fast and she suspected his blood pressure was really high and it had altered his state of mind and that's why he was being so odd at his water bowl. I don't know if I believe this! She said there was nothing else we could do for him and he would continue to get weaker. At this point he got up went to his water bowl and started drinking! But then continued going between his three water bowls hunched over staring at them. The vet said he wouldn't get any better and it would be the kindest thing to do and let him go. I couldn't sign the consent form, my partner had to do it. I was holding him when they put the sedative in his leg, he proper hissed and pulled away, I'm convinced that was his way of saying "f off I'm going to get better". We put him on his bed for the vet to give him the overdose of anaesthetic. She said it would take a couple minutes to ten minutes for him to slip away after it being given; he was gone before they finished injecting it all. My partner says he thinks that shows how weak his heart was as he went so quickly.
I am so sorry for this essay! But I feel like I had to give all this info as I need to give the whole story. I have never felt this horrific in my life! I miss my boy so so so much, I just want him back! I feel broken! I'm consumed with guilt, I feel like I've let our boy down. I keep thinking what if there was something else we could have done to help, but we didn't do anything else for him and now he's gone and I can't cope! People keep saying we did the right thing for him, but who am I to end his wee life. He trusted us to look after him and we let this happen to him!
Has anyone felt this horrendous guilt? How did you deal with it? I feel like I can't live with this guilt and that we no longer have our boy! I've been physically sick with how I'm feeling. I feel like I've massively let him down and wherever he is he's angry with us.
Has anyone felt the same way in this situation?
Please help me,
Sara