Hi Kerry!
First of all, welcome to TCS!
It's a pleasure having you here and any advice is greatly appreciated from all of us.
We have 3 Persians and 1 Stray I took in last year. The ages go from 14 years, 9 years, and two 3-4 year olds respectfully. The 14 year old, Tedi, is also my cat. He has formed a special bond with my mom. He never really bonded with me or came to me for company. I try to spend some time with him, playing with him, feeding him, etc, but he loves my mom to death. Ever since I took the stray cat in, Lexi, who is a calico, he has constantly stalked her, picked on her, smacked her, and is just ruthless at times. All the other cats pick on her as well so my room is her sanctuary. The others are not as bad as Tedi.
What I can't figure out is that he never cared whether I spent time with another cat. Is he jealous? If so, why now? He spends more time in my room because she is in my room and I try to treat them both fairly, but he still goes to my mom as before. At times they can be nice to each other, but that is not often. It has been a year and I feel like the transition has not completed itself.
What is going on with him? I found out he has a heart murmur so I will also be taking him to a specialist to have it checked out. I am at a loss of what to do because I just don't understand his behavior.
First of all, welcome to TCS!
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We have 3 Persians and 1 Stray I took in last year. The ages go from 14 years, 9 years, and two 3-4 year olds respectfully. The 14 year old, Tedi, is also my cat. He has formed a special bond with my mom. He never really bonded with me or came to me for company. I try to spend some time with him, playing with him, feeding him, etc, but he loves my mom to death. Ever since I took the stray cat in, Lexi, who is a calico, he has constantly stalked her, picked on her, smacked her, and is just ruthless at times. All the other cats pick on her as well so my room is her sanctuary. The others are not as bad as Tedi.
What I can't figure out is that he never cared whether I spent time with another cat. Is he jealous? If so, why now? He spends more time in my room because she is in my room and I try to treat them both fairly, but he still goes to my mom as before. At times they can be nice to each other, but that is not often. It has been a year and I feel like the transition has not completed itself.
What is going on with him? I found out he has a heart murmur so I will also be taking him to a specialist to have it checked out. I am at a loss of what to do because I just don't understand his behavior.