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No I'm not talking about my TCS friends. I'm talking about my 'real life' friends.
Why can't people just listen?
Why do people think that they have to FIX me. I just want to vent, get things off my chest so I can sleep, but no, I have two different friends who, each in her own way, feels the need to either point out the flaws of my complaints and/or offer what SHE thinks I should have done.
These are not casual acquaintances, these are people I have been close to for years and years. All I wanted was a sympathetic ear. All I wanted was to share my feelings of frustration and anger and helplessness over a certain situation. I felt bad, and wanted to spill it, is all, you know?
One friend felt she had to point out all the flaws in my complaints, basically saying I should not be feeling this way, because of A B and C. What the heck?
The other friend felt the need to tell me what I should have done and should not have done to prevent something from happening (that already has happened so how helpful is that?)
So..in an effort to de-stress myself a little I turned to two very dear loving friends, and they both made me feel worse.
Bletch!
Why can't people just listen?
Why do people think that they have to FIX me. I just want to vent, get things off my chest so I can sleep, but no, I have two different friends who, each in her own way, feels the need to either point out the flaws of my complaints and/or offer what SHE thinks I should have done.
These are not casual acquaintances, these are people I have been close to for years and years. All I wanted was a sympathetic ear. All I wanted was to share my feelings of frustration and anger and helplessness over a certain situation. I felt bad, and wanted to spill it, is all, you know?
One friend felt she had to point out all the flaws in my complaints, basically saying I should not be feeling this way, because of A B and C. What the heck?
The other friend felt the need to tell me what I should have done and should not have done to prevent something from happening (that already has happened so how helpful is that?)
So..in an effort to de-stress myself a little I turned to two very dear loving friends, and they both made me feel worse.
Bletch!