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I've written before concerning the trials and tribulations of introducing my female Maine Coon kitten (born 12/1/15) Lucy to my 7 year old spayed male mixed breed Sparky. It has been an ordeal to say the least. It is at a point now where I cannot see a a peaceful resolution. I live in a studio apartment and the only way I can separate them for any length of time is to put one in the bathroom
Sparky is a very needy, whiny, adorable and affectionate guy. He is very vocal and has been since he was a kitten. He was introduced to 5 year old Mickey when he was a 12 week old kitten. He was born in captivity and appeared to have been well socialized. He was the alpha guy and Mickey was always a shy and reserved guy. About a year and a half ago he suddenly turned on Mickey and became vicious. He chased Mickey under the sink and Mickey stayed there a good deal of the time. They would eat near each other and have brief periods of calm. I watched them closely and it appeared as if Mickey would suddenly freak as they looked at each other. Mickey would dart away and that would trigger Sparky to chase him and in my opinion try to kill him. I have had cats for 40 years and I think I know them well. I saw nothing in any facial expression or ear placement or tail wagging or anything else to seemingly trigger Sparky's rage. I took Sparky to the vet and he was found to be in good health. The vet suggested spraying Feliway, which I did. It seemed to help and the spats became less frequent. However, Sparky would still on occasion get crazy. Mickey had a heart attack a week after he had extensive dental work. He had a heart murmur and he probably broke off a clot into his legs. within one hour I had him at the vet and had to put him to sleep. He lost the use of his hind legs. It was very sad. He was a wonderful guy.
I got Lucy to keep Sparky company. I have always been a two cat person and truly believe it is the best arrangement.
Introductions were slow and occasionally troublesome. (You can read some of the other threads I've started regarding the process.)
Now it is an almost untenable situation. They have long periods of calm. They can eat within 3 feet of each other. They chase each other around the apartment and Sparky gets Lucy down and he is on top as they wrestle. All of this seems like perfectly normal cat play and kitten play. Lucy is growing fast and she seems unafraid of Sparky - most of the time. Occasionally she walks across the top of the couch to avoid him or walks near him warily. Other times they can go nose to nose and everything seems fine. Lucy goes from being on guard to totally fearless. Then, Sparky, with no visible warning lunges at her and screams and swats at her. There seems to be no rhyme or reason why he suddenly get for her. Occassionally, Lucy is at fault. She bats her toy all over the apartment and when she gets near him he sometimes gets annoyed. I absolutely understand that. Other times she is resting in a corner, sometimes with her back to him and he walks over and attacks her.
In my other threads it has been suggested I give them a time out. I cannot lock them in a bathroom. Sparky is in there now and he is jumping at the door trying to get out. I just don't know what to do. Others suggested this will be over in time as she gets bigger - she ought to be bigger than him by maturity. I don't know If I can wait that long or if it will ever get much better.
One other thought is that it is more my problem than theirs. If that is the consensus I am ok with that. He has yet to hurt her as far as I can see. He has never drawn blood and she bounces back and comes back to him after he may have chased her down the hallway. The Sparky scream is very unnerving and quite possibly more uncomfortable for me than Lucy. I don't want to see her get hurt or to become fearful. She is outgoing and wonderful.
I really think there may be something wrong with Sparky - emotionally.
I'm almost at the point that I feel it may be best to get Sparky another home - one without another animal. This would defeat the very purpose of getting him a companion in the first place and would tear a hole in my heart. Lucy is a fantastic beautiful cat and I'd hate to give her up. I'm very stressed out.
I've been a two cat person for 40 years and I have never had this situation. All of my cats have coexisted with each other - some more loving to each other - some more aloof.
Thanks for your advice.
Sparky is a very needy, whiny, adorable and affectionate guy. He is very vocal and has been since he was a kitten. He was introduced to 5 year old Mickey when he was a 12 week old kitten. He was born in captivity and appeared to have been well socialized. He was the alpha guy and Mickey was always a shy and reserved guy. About a year and a half ago he suddenly turned on Mickey and became vicious. He chased Mickey under the sink and Mickey stayed there a good deal of the time. They would eat near each other and have brief periods of calm. I watched them closely and it appeared as if Mickey would suddenly freak as they looked at each other. Mickey would dart away and that would trigger Sparky to chase him and in my opinion try to kill him. I have had cats for 40 years and I think I know them well. I saw nothing in any facial expression or ear placement or tail wagging or anything else to seemingly trigger Sparky's rage. I took Sparky to the vet and he was found to be in good health. The vet suggested spraying Feliway, which I did. It seemed to help and the spats became less frequent. However, Sparky would still on occasion get crazy. Mickey had a heart attack a week after he had extensive dental work. He had a heart murmur and he probably broke off a clot into his legs. within one hour I had him at the vet and had to put him to sleep. He lost the use of his hind legs. It was very sad. He was a wonderful guy.
I got Lucy to keep Sparky company. I have always been a two cat person and truly believe it is the best arrangement.
Introductions were slow and occasionally troublesome. (You can read some of the other threads I've started regarding the process.)
Now it is an almost untenable situation. They have long periods of calm. They can eat within 3 feet of each other. They chase each other around the apartment and Sparky gets Lucy down and he is on top as they wrestle. All of this seems like perfectly normal cat play and kitten play. Lucy is growing fast and she seems unafraid of Sparky - most of the time. Occasionally she walks across the top of the couch to avoid him or walks near him warily. Other times they can go nose to nose and everything seems fine. Lucy goes from being on guard to totally fearless. Then, Sparky, with no visible warning lunges at her and screams and swats at her. There seems to be no rhyme or reason why he suddenly get for her. Occassionally, Lucy is at fault. She bats her toy all over the apartment and when she gets near him he sometimes gets annoyed. I absolutely understand that. Other times she is resting in a corner, sometimes with her back to him and he walks over and attacks her.
In my other threads it has been suggested I give them a time out. I cannot lock them in a bathroom. Sparky is in there now and he is jumping at the door trying to get out. I just don't know what to do. Others suggested this will be over in time as she gets bigger - she ought to be bigger than him by maturity. I don't know If I can wait that long or if it will ever get much better.
One other thought is that it is more my problem than theirs. If that is the consensus I am ok with that. He has yet to hurt her as far as I can see. He has never drawn blood and she bounces back and comes back to him after he may have chased her down the hallway. The Sparky scream is very unnerving and quite possibly more uncomfortable for me than Lucy. I don't want to see her get hurt or to become fearful. She is outgoing and wonderful.
I really think there may be something wrong with Sparky - emotionally.
I'm almost at the point that I feel it may be best to get Sparky another home - one without another animal. This would defeat the very purpose of getting him a companion in the first place and would tear a hole in my heart. Lucy is a fantastic beautiful cat and I'd hate to give her up. I'm very stressed out.
I've been a two cat person for 40 years and I have never had this situation. All of my cats have coexisted with each other - some more loving to each other - some more aloof.
Thanks for your advice.