I'm new to cat ownership. I couldn't have even told you what the word feral meant 7 months ago. However, I wanted a pet because I'm a single person who lives alone. Even though I've loved dogs my whole life, I know what kind of work they take and my job is so demanding it wouldn't be fair to have a dog.
So I'm convinced by a few friends and co-workers that cat ownership is for me. Cats are easy I'm told. I did my research as best I could, I bought everything I'd need and went to a local shelter. I asked to be put in a room with the two 14 week old kittens they had available and play with them. Originally I thought I wanted the other sister but Reggie just immediately warmed up to me and was so social and playful. I thought wow yeah I can do this despite never being around cats or kittens. The shelter let me take her home the same day.
I know very little about her background except that when she was brought in at around 12 weeks she was extremely feral. The vet tech told me she was very hissy and wouldn't let anyone touch her. I've read now that 12 weeks is sort of a turning point for feral kittens as to whether or not they'll be good pets.
Reggie although she started out very sweet and has been given all kinds of love, is fed the best food (been trying to get her off dry free feeding and once it's gone, I won't be getting anymore and she'll get only wet at mealtimes), is so spoiled with every toy, and has had visitors of every kind come through my apartment and socialize with her.
She's not anti social, per say. Yes she hides when someone's at the door but eventually comes out to greet people. She doesn't like anyone loud or really to be picked up by anyone except me. But she's certainly not a super social cat. Despite her being an OK companion by all accounts... I wouldn't call her particularly loving, I think she purposely ruins things like curtains and attempts to ruin dresses etc bc she thrives on negative attention which I can't help but sometimes give... I've worried about her mental and physical health as an indoor cat who hates the outdoors, really has packed on the pounds despite being fed the best diet and with what appears to be extreme food anxiety.
As far as the anxiety she exhibits and agreessiveness surrounding food, if dry food is not out all day she becomes particularly grouchy. She will beg for food all the time and if I go near the kitchen will run ahead and try to steer me to the shelves to get her food. She also chomps down as quickly as she can at whatever's placed in front of her.
And i had no idea what size kittens should be at what ages but it seems as though she was severely underweight and malnourished. Though she was allowed in the same pen with other cats at the shelter, she hissed at them and seemed touchy. Looking back, it all seems accurate she'd turn out the way she is but at the time I had no idea. I'm the only home she's ever had and her start to life was incredibly rough it appears.
Fast forward, and she's about 9 months old now, and seemed to be getting somewhat better with food issues but I could tell had just an enormous amount of pent up energy. I would play with her. Even if I were tired we had a nightly routine of laser tag to wear her out as much as I could. However I knew that wasn't enough. She's probably in the overweight category now and again, I've tried taking away the dry food it it only makes her more crazy.
I don't exactly know why but I thought it would be a good idea to adopt a kitten. Reggie is still a kitten herself and I understand now why people say to adopt in pairs. Of course Reggie wasn't exactly thrilled to begin with. However, New kitten has been slowly introduced after being in a separate room and Reggie stopped hissing at her and seemed to calm down. She does still chase the kitten, pin her down and bite her neck which scares me. I am worried that pattern of behavior will continue forever.
I know if you're reading this post you're going to think I've done all the wrong things but I tried at every point to do the right thing. Tonight, I realized she's just gotten more and more aggressive. I tried putting her in another room to eat and calm down. She yelled at first but then was quiet so I let her out. She returned to extremely aggressive behavior. I put her outside where she sometimes likes to go in the backyard and chase things. I tried playing with her. Nothing worked. so then I took her in my arms and forced her to be in my arms for a bit and she promptly FELL ASLEEP.
I couldn't believe it. She's never fallen asleep in my arms before. It dawned on me she's so stressed out since kitten arrived I bet she has not slept much at all. I placed her in my bedroom where she likes to sleep, let my dinner get cold and laid with her where I am now writing this post. She's curled up next to me now. I don't want to get rid of kitten I think in the end it will be better for Reggie to have a playmate, she's still young I think she will adapt to being her friend or so I hold out hope. Plus, I'm already in love with kitten who admittedly got a much better start to life (with the exception of being terrorized by her new adopted sister) and is a much more outgoing kitten with very little fears of anything.
I'm looking for solutions. I'm going to try feliway of course but I've read it's sort of a waste of money and doesn't work on everyone. I am also hoping I can get Reggie on Xanax. Does anyone have experience with a borderline feral cat who may have been out in the wild just a tad too long? If so, was anyone out there ridiculous enough to think she'd like a friend?
So I'm convinced by a few friends and co-workers that cat ownership is for me. Cats are easy I'm told. I did my research as best I could, I bought everything I'd need and went to a local shelter. I asked to be put in a room with the two 14 week old kittens they had available and play with them. Originally I thought I wanted the other sister but Reggie just immediately warmed up to me and was so social and playful. I thought wow yeah I can do this despite never being around cats or kittens. The shelter let me take her home the same day.
I know very little about her background except that when she was brought in at around 12 weeks she was extremely feral. The vet tech told me she was very hissy and wouldn't let anyone touch her. I've read now that 12 weeks is sort of a turning point for feral kittens as to whether or not they'll be good pets.
Reggie although she started out very sweet and has been given all kinds of love, is fed the best food (been trying to get her off dry free feeding and once it's gone, I won't be getting anymore and she'll get only wet at mealtimes), is so spoiled with every toy, and has had visitors of every kind come through my apartment and socialize with her.
She's not anti social, per say. Yes she hides when someone's at the door but eventually comes out to greet people. She doesn't like anyone loud or really to be picked up by anyone except me. But she's certainly not a super social cat. Despite her being an OK companion by all accounts... I wouldn't call her particularly loving, I think she purposely ruins things like curtains and attempts to ruin dresses etc bc she thrives on negative attention which I can't help but sometimes give... I've worried about her mental and physical health as an indoor cat who hates the outdoors, really has packed on the pounds despite being fed the best diet and with what appears to be extreme food anxiety.
As far as the anxiety she exhibits and agreessiveness surrounding food, if dry food is not out all day she becomes particularly grouchy. She will beg for food all the time and if I go near the kitchen will run ahead and try to steer me to the shelves to get her food. She also chomps down as quickly as she can at whatever's placed in front of her.
And i had no idea what size kittens should be at what ages but it seems as though she was severely underweight and malnourished. Though she was allowed in the same pen with other cats at the shelter, she hissed at them and seemed touchy. Looking back, it all seems accurate she'd turn out the way she is but at the time I had no idea. I'm the only home she's ever had and her start to life was incredibly rough it appears.
Fast forward, and she's about 9 months old now, and seemed to be getting somewhat better with food issues but I could tell had just an enormous amount of pent up energy. I would play with her. Even if I were tired we had a nightly routine of laser tag to wear her out as much as I could. However I knew that wasn't enough. She's probably in the overweight category now and again, I've tried taking away the dry food it it only makes her more crazy.
I don't exactly know why but I thought it would be a good idea to adopt a kitten. Reggie is still a kitten herself and I understand now why people say to adopt in pairs. Of course Reggie wasn't exactly thrilled to begin with. However, New kitten has been slowly introduced after being in a separate room and Reggie stopped hissing at her and seemed to calm down. She does still chase the kitten, pin her down and bite her neck which scares me. I am worried that pattern of behavior will continue forever.
I know if you're reading this post you're going to think I've done all the wrong things but I tried at every point to do the right thing. Tonight, I realized she's just gotten more and more aggressive. I tried putting her in another room to eat and calm down. She yelled at first but then was quiet so I let her out. She returned to extremely aggressive behavior. I put her outside where she sometimes likes to go in the backyard and chase things. I tried playing with her. Nothing worked. so then I took her in my arms and forced her to be in my arms for a bit and she promptly FELL ASLEEP.
I couldn't believe it. She's never fallen asleep in my arms before. It dawned on me she's so stressed out since kitten arrived I bet she has not slept much at all. I placed her in my bedroom where she likes to sleep, let my dinner get cold and laid with her where I am now writing this post. She's curled up next to me now. I don't want to get rid of kitten I think in the end it will be better for Reggie to have a playmate, she's still young I think she will adapt to being her friend or so I hold out hope. Plus, I'm already in love with kitten who admittedly got a much better start to life (with the exception of being terrorized by her new adopted sister) and is a much more outgoing kitten with very little fears of anything.
I'm looking for solutions. I'm going to try feliway of course but I've read it's sort of a waste of money and doesn't work on everyone. I am also hoping I can get Reggie on Xanax. Does anyone have experience with a borderline feral cat who may have been out in the wild just a tad too long? If so, was anyone out there ridiculous enough to think she'd like a friend?