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Hey everybody,
I have 2 female indoor cats from the shelter, one is 4 years old and has been with me for 7 months, her name is Babs... the other is 2 years old and has been with me for 2.5 months, her name is Mirre.
Both were still quite feral when I got them and very much afraid of anything including me. They're doing really good now, slowly finding their way in my house and around me. They won't let me touch them, and Babs especially doesn't like any physical contact, but I respect that and won't push them.
I tried to give them a proper introduction to each other, with Mirre in a separate room and all, but Mirre was so extremely afraid of me that she kept hissing at me and wouldn't come out of hiding for a whole month, while Babs was very much aware that there was another cat in the house that she couldn't see and started showing small signs of distress. So after a month without progress I decided to take myself out of the equation, open up the doors in my house and let Mirre find her way at night while I was asleep. This worked, she started roaming around, met Babs and they started playing together. They've been friends ever since, or so I thought.
I've been monitoring their behaviour and lately it doesn't always look friendly. I know cats play by chasing each other and having play fights, but I've been noticing many signs of competition too. They follow each other everywhere, sniff noses and butts and then start pushing each other away. Babs usually swats at Mirre when she gets too close. If one of them eats kibble (I free feed in 2 separate bowls in different spots in my house), the other cat comes rushing and starts eating from the same bowl, trying to push the first cat away. They will continue like this for several minutes with Mirre frantically digging kibble from the bowl and Babs pushing her to the side. Sometimes it ends with Babs swatting at Mirre or another chase, but it can also end peacefully. This competition doesn't happen when I give wet food, probably because they have their own bowl then.
They've been chasing and fighting a lot more lately, though they don't make any distressed sounds and it looks like neither is winning or losing more than the other. They both initiate and give up, but Babs initiates far more often than Mirre and Mirre doesn't always respond. I do see puffy tails, claws and flat ears when they fight. It has come to the point where they walk around the house on tip-toe, afraid that the other cat will attack from somewhere. I also once noticed that Mirre wanted to go to the litter boxes, but turned around when she saw Babs sitting near them. They do share their litter boxes though, and I've never noticed any other problems.
Babs has given up on playing with me (she used to love it), because Mirre is so playful and active that there is simply no room for Babs. Babs does look kind of pissed off when I play with Mirre, but when I try to involve her, she just walks away. And when she does play, it quickly turns into another competition between them. If I try to get them into separate rooms to play with me, the only thing they'll do is scratch at the door and try to get out.
Mirre also doesn't use any of the ledges and beds I've hung on my wall, where Babs often sleeps. She has taken over Babs' favourite spot by the window though.
I'm not sure what it all means. When I read back it doesn't look very worrisome, but there are so many small signs of competition during the day that I just don't know if I should do something. They obviously don't avoid each other, quite the opposite, but they do fight a lot and it seems to be getting more. I am getting a feliway friends diffuser to see if that helps.
I would love to let them outside so they can let off steam, but I'm not going to until they let me touch them. I want to be able to deal with the consequences of letting my cats outside (getting hurt, having fleas...) before I open the door.
What are your thoughts? Are your cats the same? Is this normal for cats or should I regulate their competitive behaviour? How do you handle this kind of competition?
(ps. I posted something similar a few months ago, but that situation involved a different cat with different dynamics)
I have 2 female indoor cats from the shelter, one is 4 years old and has been with me for 7 months, her name is Babs... the other is 2 years old and has been with me for 2.5 months, her name is Mirre.
Both were still quite feral when I got them and very much afraid of anything including me. They're doing really good now, slowly finding their way in my house and around me. They won't let me touch them, and Babs especially doesn't like any physical contact, but I respect that and won't push them.
I tried to give them a proper introduction to each other, with Mirre in a separate room and all, but Mirre was so extremely afraid of me that she kept hissing at me and wouldn't come out of hiding for a whole month, while Babs was very much aware that there was another cat in the house that she couldn't see and started showing small signs of distress. So after a month without progress I decided to take myself out of the equation, open up the doors in my house and let Mirre find her way at night while I was asleep. This worked, she started roaming around, met Babs and they started playing together. They've been friends ever since, or so I thought.
I've been monitoring their behaviour and lately it doesn't always look friendly. I know cats play by chasing each other and having play fights, but I've been noticing many signs of competition too. They follow each other everywhere, sniff noses and butts and then start pushing each other away. Babs usually swats at Mirre when she gets too close. If one of them eats kibble (I free feed in 2 separate bowls in different spots in my house), the other cat comes rushing and starts eating from the same bowl, trying to push the first cat away. They will continue like this for several minutes with Mirre frantically digging kibble from the bowl and Babs pushing her to the side. Sometimes it ends with Babs swatting at Mirre or another chase, but it can also end peacefully. This competition doesn't happen when I give wet food, probably because they have their own bowl then.
They've been chasing and fighting a lot more lately, though they don't make any distressed sounds and it looks like neither is winning or losing more than the other. They both initiate and give up, but Babs initiates far more often than Mirre and Mirre doesn't always respond. I do see puffy tails, claws and flat ears when they fight. It has come to the point where they walk around the house on tip-toe, afraid that the other cat will attack from somewhere. I also once noticed that Mirre wanted to go to the litter boxes, but turned around when she saw Babs sitting near them. They do share their litter boxes though, and I've never noticed any other problems.
Babs has given up on playing with me (she used to love it), because Mirre is so playful and active that there is simply no room for Babs. Babs does look kind of pissed off when I play with Mirre, but when I try to involve her, she just walks away. And when she does play, it quickly turns into another competition between them. If I try to get them into separate rooms to play with me, the only thing they'll do is scratch at the door and try to get out.
Mirre also doesn't use any of the ledges and beds I've hung on my wall, where Babs often sleeps. She has taken over Babs' favourite spot by the window though.
I'm not sure what it all means. When I read back it doesn't look very worrisome, but there are so many small signs of competition during the day that I just don't know if I should do something. They obviously don't avoid each other, quite the opposite, but they do fight a lot and it seems to be getting more. I am getting a feliway friends diffuser to see if that helps.
I would love to let them outside so they can let off steam, but I'm not going to until they let me touch them. I want to be able to deal with the consequences of letting my cats outside (getting hurt, having fleas...) before I open the door.
What are your thoughts? Are your cats the same? Is this normal for cats or should I regulate their competitive behaviour? How do you handle this kind of competition?
(ps. I posted something similar a few months ago, but that situation involved a different cat with different dynamics)