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Hi everybody,
Little over a month ago I adopted two female cats who were best friends according to the shelter. They'd been there for almost 6 months (brought in separately) and it got to the point where they'd eat from the same bowl and sit together. Over the past month, since they've been adopted, I began to notice little things that make me wonder if they're still such good friends now that they live under my roof...
- They're spending more and more time apart and in the morning I always find them in separate rooms. One of them has been withdrawing from company altogether this week.
- They've begun chasing each other in the hallway and occasionally slapping each other when one of them gets too close to the other. No hissing or blood though.
- They don't groom each other, not sure if they ever did.
- One of them regularly tries to make contact with the other (presenting her nose, sniffing the other's tail, following her into the room, making tiny noises like prrri -neither of them meows- when she sees the other) but most of her attempts at contact are denied. They do touch noses several times a day however and this usually looks friendly enough.
- They have a favourite spot next to a big chair in my living room, but they don't share this spot... one of them will lay there, walk away for some reason and then the other takes her place. The first cat sees this, is a little bummed but doesn't attempt to lay there as well.
- They still share a large toilet (they did so in the shelter too) and this seems to work fine, as far as I can tell. They're pretty regular and their stool looks okay.
- They still share a feeding and drinking bowl (kibble only, I give them wet food once a day with a spoon or on plates), and this seems to go okay as well.
- They appear to share toys.
I can think of several reasons for their reduced contact:
- They're finally settling down and their behaviour is normalizing in the sense that they're returning to the "persons" they were before the shelter and before their friendship (they were both found in the streets and are still half feral)
- One of them might be sick. If this is true, it would most likely be the cat who withdraws, but she's still extremely feisty during play and she eats normal. She also uses the toilet exactly like before. She does have a clogged nose, but doesn't sneeze or anything. And her nose is not runny.
- My neighbour's cats (male) sit in front of the windows several times a day and my girls (especially the withdrawn one) are very displeased with their visits. They are inside cats for now so all they can do is stare, hiss and flee the room. They could be projecting their frustrations on each other.
- One of them likes to eat wet food from the other's plate. Maybe this annoys the other cat to the point where she avoids contact.
I have not tried substances like Feliway yet, but am definitely willing to try. I'm also considering blinding the lower parts of the windows to avoid further contact with my neighbour's cats, but this will also take away their view of the outside world... and they really seem to enjoy looking out the windows. I have a tiny terrace of sorts that borders on a park and there's no option to put up a fence here to keep the other cats out. If the withdrawn cat shows any signs of sickness I will go to the vet immediately. They have plenty of hiding places, both high and low, and I'm going to install a proper runway for them in the hallway soon.
So, any thoughts on the situation? Do I need to worry about my cats and their friendship? Anybody here who experienced the same? What can I do to improve their contact?
Little over a month ago I adopted two female cats who were best friends according to the shelter. They'd been there for almost 6 months (brought in separately) and it got to the point where they'd eat from the same bowl and sit together. Over the past month, since they've been adopted, I began to notice little things that make me wonder if they're still such good friends now that they live under my roof...
- They're spending more and more time apart and in the morning I always find them in separate rooms. One of them has been withdrawing from company altogether this week.
- They've begun chasing each other in the hallway and occasionally slapping each other when one of them gets too close to the other. No hissing or blood though.
- They don't groom each other, not sure if they ever did.
- One of them regularly tries to make contact with the other (presenting her nose, sniffing the other's tail, following her into the room, making tiny noises like prrri -neither of them meows- when she sees the other) but most of her attempts at contact are denied. They do touch noses several times a day however and this usually looks friendly enough.
- They have a favourite spot next to a big chair in my living room, but they don't share this spot... one of them will lay there, walk away for some reason and then the other takes her place. The first cat sees this, is a little bummed but doesn't attempt to lay there as well.
- They still share a large toilet (they did so in the shelter too) and this seems to work fine, as far as I can tell. They're pretty regular and their stool looks okay.
- They still share a feeding and drinking bowl (kibble only, I give them wet food once a day with a spoon or on plates), and this seems to go okay as well.
- They appear to share toys.
I can think of several reasons for their reduced contact:
- They're finally settling down and their behaviour is normalizing in the sense that they're returning to the "persons" they were before the shelter and before their friendship (they were both found in the streets and are still half feral)
- One of them might be sick. If this is true, it would most likely be the cat who withdraws, but she's still extremely feisty during play and she eats normal. She also uses the toilet exactly like before. She does have a clogged nose, but doesn't sneeze or anything. And her nose is not runny.
- My neighbour's cats (male) sit in front of the windows several times a day and my girls (especially the withdrawn one) are very displeased with their visits. They are inside cats for now so all they can do is stare, hiss and flee the room. They could be projecting their frustrations on each other.
- One of them likes to eat wet food from the other's plate. Maybe this annoys the other cat to the point where she avoids contact.
I have not tried substances like Feliway yet, but am definitely willing to try. I'm also considering blinding the lower parts of the windows to avoid further contact with my neighbour's cats, but this will also take away their view of the outside world... and they really seem to enjoy looking out the windows. I have a tiny terrace of sorts that borders on a park and there's no option to put up a fence here to keep the other cats out. If the withdrawn cat shows any signs of sickness I will go to the vet immediately. They have plenty of hiding places, both high and low, and I'm going to install a proper runway for them in the hallway soon.
So, any thoughts on the situation? Do I need to worry about my cats and their friendship? Anybody here who experienced the same? What can I do to improve their contact?