One of my good friends was in a slip & fall accident a few weeks ago. She hurt her back and elbow. It's now progressed to the point she can't walk without assistance and can't really feel parts of her legs; and she has been in the hospital since Friday. She called me in tears because they want to discharge her today. She lives alone, on the second floor and they won't even give her a walker to use. But the doctor told her that because her MRI was fine they can't keep her.
Shes in a lot of pain and has basically no one to help her where she lives. Her dad lives closer to me; but she's very uncomfortable with the idea of him helping her to the bathroom and tub.
Her doctor said she needs home care; but the hospital isn't helping her get it from what she says. I live about 90 minutes from her and I don't have an extra bed. My parents do but they work and my mother is sick. (So is my daughter apparently, yay).
I feel like a bad friend but I don't know what else to do to help her! Her lawyer isn't answering his phone either... Her mother lives half way across the country.
I'm wondering how long it's going to take to get home care set up for her? How can she just be discharged with "no one" to take care of her at home. Part of me wants to say that either her mother needs to just get over here (she is a nurse and her MOTHER after all) or my friend just needs to suck it up and go to her dad's for now. Her step-mom works but she can help when she is there. It's not as if he has to look when she uses the bathroom; she just needs some support getting there. All these years my family has come to my friend's rescue; she even spends her holidays with us instead of them. It feels like we've enabled them to think they don't need to be there for her.
Sorry for being so long and venting! I do feel guilty; but I'm not sure how much help I can really be! I can cook and things; but only if shes closer. Any advice or words of wisdom?
Shes in a lot of pain and has basically no one to help her where she lives. Her dad lives closer to me; but she's very uncomfortable with the idea of him helping her to the bathroom and tub.
Her doctor said she needs home care; but the hospital isn't helping her get it from what she says. I live about 90 minutes from her and I don't have an extra bed. My parents do but they work and my mother is sick. (So is my daughter apparently, yay).
I feel like a bad friend but I don't know what else to do to help her! Her lawyer isn't answering his phone either... Her mother lives half way across the country.
I'm wondering how long it's going to take to get home care set up for her? How can she just be discharged with "no one" to take care of her at home. Part of me wants to say that either her mother needs to just get over here (she is a nurse and her MOTHER after all) or my friend just needs to suck it up and go to her dad's for now. Her step-mom works but she can help when she is there. It's not as if he has to look when she uses the bathroom; she just needs some support getting there. All these years my family has come to my friend's rescue; she even spends her holidays with us instead of them. It feels like we've enabled them to think they don't need to be there for her.
Sorry for being so long and venting! I do feel guilty; but I'm not sure how much help I can really be! I can cook and things; but only if shes closer. Any advice or words of wisdom?