Yes, I have been cheated on. Two different guys. Both were long term relationships.Originally Posted by greenvillegal
I love him so much, and I think everyone deserves a second chance, but I really do not see how I could ever trust him again. Has anyone ever been cheated on and how did you deal with it? Did you give them another chance?
Without trust there is no relationship.
The first guy I actually caught red handed so to speak. We were supposed to be going camping. He didn't come to my home to pick me up when he said he would, and there was no answer on his phone. He only lived about 8 blocks from me so I walked over there to see what was wrong. I rang his bell and saw him coming out of his bedroom in a bathrobe. When he opened the door I saw a girl's leather jacket and boots on the steps. I left.
He tried to call me and apologize and make excuses and proclaim his love for me etc. etc. I didn't buy into it. If he loved me he wouldn't have been with her.
The second guy was someone I seriously thought to be my "soul mate". He went to a party at his brother's house in another town, and while there he met a girl. The following week he was "different".... distant ... distracted. I called him on the Wednesday and he said he couldn't talk long because he was cleaning! Now this guy never cleaned. I did that. On the Friday he was to call me and let me know how his job interview went. I never heard from him. On Sunday I called him and asked him what was going on. He confessed about this girl he met and that she had come to see him that weekend and was there. Apparently they were an item since the party a week before. Which explains why he was "distant" with me. He and I had been dating 18 months and were talking marriage.
He and I broke up. He got engaged to her the following Christmas (less than 2 months later) and 6 months after that they were married. He contacted me earlier this year telling me that he and his wife split up and were divorcing and that the biggest mistake he ever made was letting me go. He wanted to see me. I told him that I had moved on and so should he. It took lots of will to tell him that because I never did get over him. But he hurt me really badly and if he did it once he will do it again, and I wasn't prepared to let him do that to me again. I have more respect for myself than to be his "in betweenie"; someone who is convenient and a fall back. Which is what it would be because it was only time before he felt the need to romp with someone else.
Hon, if a guy you are dating, not even married to is already cheating on you, that's not a good sign. And you sure don't want to be getting even more deeply involved by becoming engaged to this guy.
I know you say you love him, but he doesn't love you. You don't do stuff like that to someone that you love.
Do yourself a favour and maintain your dignity and self respect and walk away with your head held high. You deserve way better than that. I know! I've been through it.
Once someone cheats on you it's hard to regain that trust, and without trust there is no relationship because there is always suspicion about where he is if he isn't with you, or if he's late to pick you up, or if he can't talk on the phone when you call etc.
Walk away and find yourself a man that only has eyes for you. Trust me, there will be someone like that.